April 29, 2013 By Johnathan

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Over the years, I’ve studied many schools of thought for my coaching practice in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, from life coaching, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT – postgrad) and emotional freedom technique (EFT). I did my second postgraduate in ‘Coaching and NLP’. Other than feeding my thirst for learning, and knowing that one size doesn’t fit all. I was also looking for the right way to coach or to heal as I regard coaching as the same as healing. What I realised is that it was less about which school of thought a coach/therapist came from but who the coach/therapist was ‘Being’ as a model of excellence.

‘The evidence is incontrovertible: Who provides the therapy is a much more important determinate of success than what treatment is provided.’ ~ ‘Supercoach’ (Miller et al, 2007)

Recently, I had received a call from a young single mother who had a four year old son. At his school ‘kindergarten/reception’ class, her son was very shy and closed but was willing to join in the practises for the up coming festival. But when it came to showing the parents their showcase, he wouldn’t perform in front of the mums and dads despite really wanting to, he would get frustrated then angry which would then lead to some display of negative behaviour.

Her son was a delightful little boy, but there was one thing that was crystal clear. At this age, the cognitive process hasn’t developed yet, which meant the mental level approaches like CBT and NLP weren’t really the right tools for the job. Trying to find out whether it was a fear of performing school plays or getting it wrong or being laughed at, and any negative thoughts he may of had before any of those fears, wasn’t going to be very fruitful and nonsensical reasoning.

I decided to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) on the child and simply bypass thinking styles and challenging thoughts and beliefs etc.

EFT combines tapping on acupuncture points with words based on NLP.

He was able to tell me that he felt sad whenever he saw his mum in the audience. Curiously, I asked him what was he sad about when he sees his mum in the audience, he answered that he gets sad because she would leave again after the show.

I asked the mother where the father was and whether her son had been left alone in the past? The father had never been around much after the birth of their son, and after the son was three and a half months old the mother, who worked as a make-up artist, had been offered work at the Opera House and gratefully accepted the job in order to move out of the tiny rented accommodation she had and get a mortgage for a home. By age two and a half years old, the mother then was offered a feature film contract but meant more crazy hours up to 70 hr weeks! So her son stayed with his grandmother while the mother went to work.

At this age, a child needs Love & Attention, which no doubt the grandmother was able to give to her grandson. But the son not understanding why he was dropped off may have triggered a basic wounding of ‘abandonment’ perhaps feeling a little deserted. This can lead to the fear of being alone and would therefore cling onto his mother.

After tapping a mixture of ‘fear of being alone’ and ‘feeling really sad’, half an hour later we were done. We did the same again the following week for our second session.

One of the most beautiful things working with children is how quick the sessions are as they are very receptive and not argumentative as adults can be. By dealing with this now and making it fun, means he won’t have to deal with this particular wound in 20+ years time when his negative behaviours may have magnified to something much worse! He can now be his own healer and with his new evidence can form new empowering beliefs.

Nip it in the bud early!

This is an email I received a week later from the mother:

“I took my 4 year old son to have EFT with Johnathan and have been utterly amazed at the results. After just a few days of ‘tapping’ he was no longer highly distressed when I dropped him at school but running in happy and carefree with barely a backward glance. He is starting to love playing at Kindergarten and is interacting a lot more with the friends he is making. A sight I have longed for and one that filled my heart with joy beyond words. The festival was a huge success, and he joined in with all of it and absolutely loved it. He had a huge smile on his face the whole time and kept waving. Very cute. He is so proud of himself and wanted me to let you know he had done it.

He immediately connected to Johnathan’s warm, gentle and compassionate approach and really enjoyed learning the tapping process.

After just two sessions with Johnathan he would tell me the emotion he wanted to tap and we would do it together at home as well…and in some slightly more extraordinary locations! We were at the top of a steep tunnel slide and he really wanted to go down but was too scared (he has always been scared of these slides and has only gone down one once before) He turned around to me and said, ‘come on Mama let’s tap the scared feeling away.’ After the first round of tapping he sat down at the top of the slide, after the second round he shuffled in about an inch, after the third.. a little more of a shuffle forward and after the fourth he started to giggle and said, ‘I don’t need to do any more tapping Mama, I can do this.’ He gave me a big smile and then after a slight hesitation…off he went…whizzing down the slide, whooping. I couldn’t believe my eyes. Absolutely incredible!

The part I like the most is how easy and effective it is for him to do; for him it has already become as normal as brushing his teeth! It is a good feeling to know he has a tool which will help him all through his life, should he need to use it. Something which will help him always be true to himself…not his fears. No matter how big or small. Thank you Johnathan, for teaching my beautiful son such a wonderful healing method with such warmth and understanding.” ~ T.M. Mother, Make-up artist and author

‘Emotional Freedom Technique’s (EFT) remarkable power to bring about change probably stems from the way that its combination of carefully chosen words and gentle, physical stimulation of acupuncture points reaches deep into the most ancient and influential part of the brain, undoing conditioned mental or physical responses that can undermine us, foster illness or inhabit healing.’ ~ Dr Robert Scaer, Neurologist (The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation and Disease, 2000.)

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

The 80/20 Rule: A Powerful Life Coaching & Management Tool

April 19, 2013 By Johnathan Leave a Comment

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One of the most widely used and commonly taught principles of time management, a topic that frequently arises in personal coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent, is the 80/20 rule. It began as a simple observation in 1906 by an Italian economist named Vilfredo Pareto, who noticed that 20% of people owned 80% of the wealth. Pareto called this phenomenon: “the vital few and the trivial many.” And after studying it extensively across diverse applications, he determined that only 20 percent of anything is responsible for 80 percent.

That means in any team or group, 20% of the members are doing 80% of the work. And in an individuals own work, 20% of what they put into something is responsible for 80% of the results. In the 1940s, Dr. Joseph M. Juran — who is responsible for naming this phenomenon the Pareto Principle — observed similarly that 20% of the defects in a product or process are responsible for 80% of the problems. So it goes both ways. In fact, as it turns out, this principle can apply to almost anything:

80% of clients deliver 20% of your income.

80% of all frustrations in a relationship are caused by just 20% of the problems.

80% of your problems are caused by 20% of your circumstances.

80% of your income comes from 20% of your work.

So in terms of personal coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent, how does one apply this principle toward improving your own time management and productivity? Toward increasing efficiency and effectiveness, whether in your work, school or home life? By applying 80 of your efforts to the most important 20 percent of your work or goals. Or find out which 20% is the main cause of your problems and then eliminate them.

As I share with many a client personal coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent, the Pareto Principle teaches you how to work smarter rather than harder, by reminding you to put the bulk of your energy toward the few tasks that matter most.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

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How to Make 2014 Your Best Year Yet: Part I – New Year’s Resolutions That Stick

December 31, 2013 By Johnathan

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As we reach another New Year’s Eve, it’s time to look back on how well we have (or haven’t, as the case may be) achieved our goals of the previous year, and look ahead to how we can achieve more of what we want in the coming year. Sadly, many people find at this time that they’ve fallen far short of their expectations for themselves over the previous year, a fact that’s given New Year’s resolutions a bad name. But the truth is, with millions of people worldwide all setting intentions for the year ahead, there’s no better time to put your energy into the mix and benefit from group intention. So how do you do it in a way that works? How do you set New Year’s resolutions that stick?

The first and most important step is setting specific goals. The more specific you can be about what you want, the easier it is to achieve it, and the more likely you are to be successful in achieving it. For example, a goal of saving £1,000 by December 31, 2014 is a lot more useful than a goal of saving more. Why is this?

Because when we get specific, we put our minds to work. You want to save more? Fine. How much more? Why? What do you plan to use that money for? Why £1,000 and not £500 or £2,000? Why December and not September? All of these questions, and more, come into play when getting specific about your goal. And when you put your mind to work answering these questions, you put more of that psychic, magnetic, manifestation energy out into the universe to help attract that goal to you.

What’s more, getting specific about your goal helps you visualise the achievement of that goal. You want £1,000 to start your child’s college fund? In order to come up with that answer, you actually had to imagine your child going to college, visualise her getting her education, her diploma up there in cap and gown, her first job. Maybe you want £1,000 to redo your bathroom. That gets you visualising the bathroom you want, and that visualisation is what helps draw to you the money necessary to make it happen.

As I tell my clients life coaching in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, the more you know precisely what you want, the easier it is to get it. Use New Year’s 2014 as an opportunity to get more in touch with what you really want. And then hop on the global psychic manifestation energy train of people worldwide making New Year’s resolutions too, and put the power of group intention to work for you.

Wishing you all a HAPPY and ABUNDANT New Year!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

A Special Christmas Message For 2013

December 23, 2013 By Johnathan

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In a nutshell:

All manifested things have meaning. If our word cannot express the truth of what they mean, we may ignore their significance and lose out on life energy, love, enthusiasm and growth.

Is this what we are doing to ourselves?

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How many of the Christmas cards that have fallen through your letterbox have pictures of trees and stars? A good proportion I imagine.

And yet, inspite of all these representations of the Tree of Life and Light, which we send once a year to remind ourselves that our lives and all life has meaning and purpose and needs renewing, many still say the true spirit of Christmas has been lost.

Perhaps it is not the spirit and meaning of Christmas we have so lately lost. Rather, it maybe our understanding of the international language of symbols, used universally from time immemorial that we have chosen to forget in our left brained world. When words become inadequate to encompass and express the full meaning of those deepest truths all men learn from life’s direct experiences, a symbol can give an immediate apprehension of a many-levelled wholeness of meaning that is shared.

As an example for today – at it’s highest meaning and universally, and evergreen tree can symbolise man’s undying spirit, or even immortality. Like all trees it also means shelter, nourishment and protection. At the lowest level, it can merely mean somewhere to hang our baubles. There are levels between these two. Can you enlarge on their meaningfulness for you, until you sense their inner truths?

Again – for some a star is just a star, a pin point of light – a mere irrelevance in their lives, but for others and for universal man it has always meant a portal to the heavens, and access to divine guidance and chance to grow into realms beyond the physical and into a greater understanding of the oneness of creation. How far does this apply to you?

Perhaps we should look more closely at our Christmas cards, as well as acts all life manifestations and search for the message they really carry. If we can recognise their truth and inner meaning we may become inspired with purposefulness on our journey towards next year’s Christmas season.

Unless of course, we prefer the status quo stasis.

Wishing you all a MERRY Christmas and may the New Year bring Love, Joy and Compassion to you.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Dealing With Alcoholism

August 9, 2013 By Johnathan

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On my return of my very first trip back from the Northern Cheyenne Reservation, summer of 1985, I had seen first hand what alcohol had done to the Native Americans. It took over four weeks back in Kent, England before I would touch a drop of alcohol again. I even thought for a while that pubs were blood money, I had that much anger about what it had done to my people.

One summer, I had a romance with a descendant of a famous Chief, by the following summer, when I went to visit her to let her know that I was back, her parents had no idea where she was and she hadn’t been back home for a few days. So I asked the younger brothers and sisters where she was and borrowed the parent’s pick-up truck to look for her. The kids would never tell their parents where she was, but would tell me.

We found her in the middle nowhere, as far as I was concerned, in what is called a ‘party house’, usually windows broken and really just a drinker’s den. She was lying asleep in the sweltering August afternoon heat and in the other room lay another older woman, both comatosed. I lifted and carried the daughter and dumped her in the back of the pick-up and drove her home. The parents pleased with my find, put her into her bedroom to sleep. There was nothing more I could do so I returned a couple of days later to see how she was to find that she was gone again. She had chosen alcohol over seeing me again. What a difference, twelve months make. So I left it, I wasn’t going down that road with her, I had to be strong.

It’s true to say on the physical level that alcohol is addictive and effects the emotional level as well. But you could also say that there’s an alcohol problem if it effects your relationships.

Many spiritual leaders and mind-body specialists now believe alcoholism is a physical manifestation of a rejection and denial of the Self. According to this perspective many alcoholics tend to be fleeing themselves or some part of themselves, refusing to confront their deep-rooted fear and shame, self-loathing, and/or inadequacy to love themselves.

Understandably, this mode of belief appears to challenge the notion that alcoholism is a disease over which the afflicted has no control. One problem with that notion, however, is that it feeds into the sense most alcoholics have of being “out of control” over themselves and their lives. Dealing with alcoholism from a mind-body perspective empowers the individual to affect positive, proactive changes in their innermost being that will presumably then reflect outwardly in positive, proactive change in their lives.

As an exercise for dealing with alcoholism on a spiritual level, try this:

1. Find a private room where you can lock the door and will not be disturbed.

2. Stand in front of a mirror – a full-length mirror is best. It is also best if you are naked, but this is something you can work up to as you practice this exercise over time.

3. Look yourself in the eyes and say aloud: “I love you.”

4. Now stay silent and breathe and listen to the denials, objections, rejections, refusals, contradictions, mockery, and all other negative statements that come up between you and the full acceptance of this statement.

5. Without judgment, without reaction, simply take a deep breathe into your belly and release all that negativity with a loud, expulsive sigh: “Ahh!”

6. Then look yourself in the eyes again, and again make that same statement aloud, “I love you.” It’s important to find something good about yourself, because you are a part of life. If you can’t love yourself, then you can’t love life.

7. Repeat Steps 5 and 6 until you are able to hear that statement and take it in without judgment, without rejection, without negation. It may take some time, but it will happen.

8. Then try this exercise with other statements, like: “I forgive myself,” “I’m worth it,” “I am good enough,” “I am in control of my actions, my life,” etc.

The beauty of this exercise is that it helps inure you to the triggers for alcoholic behaviour while working to reshape the very patterns of thought and feeling that fed this beast alcohol addiction. The more you look those patterns in the face, the weaker that beast becomes and the less power it has over you.

Also, EFT really helps with addictions. Please feel free to call me at my Tunbridge Wells, Kent life coaching practice if you’d like a free 30 min consultation to see how I can help. This is one road I can go down with you.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Manifestation: The Problem of Proof

July 5, 2013 By Johnathan

A problem most of us face in trying to manifest the things and situations we want in life is proof. For whatever reason – maybe human nature, maybe the scientific method – we tend to require proof of things before we believe in them. The problem with this is that manifestation doesn’t work that way.

Think of it this way:

If a person wanting to lose weight bases their diet on proof that it’s working, they’ll likely never stick with the diet long enough to see it to fruition.

If a person wanting to curry the affection of a certain party was waiting for proof that party returned their secret affections, they may never take the initiative that would break that ice and get the romance underway.

In my life coaching sessions in Tunbridge Wells, Kent I am telling people all the time: in the language of manifestation, proof comes second; belief and trust comes first. Decisive action comes first. Decision is action, in the language of manifestation. You demonstrate your belief and trust to the universe by taking decisive action upon it, independently of any proof that what you’re doing will yield the desired results.

Proof is a hindrance. A barrier. An obstacle to getting what you want. Decisive action is your way through it. Then proof will follow. Whenever you feel blocked, try this exercise:

1. Think of a goal, then visualise it and ask yourself ‘How does it feel to have it?’ Ideally, something you’ve wanted to manifest but feel stifled taking action on, perhaps because you’re waiting for something else to happen first.

2. Imagine a Genie in a Lamp granting you this wish, this goal. You still have to take the actions required to get it, but you are now guaranteed success. The other chips that are out of your control, those things you’ve been waiting to happen first, will fall where they must to ensure your success.

3. What is the first or critical actions you would take, knowing this?

4. Take that action.

Repeat steps 3 and 4 as necessary, until you have achieved your goal.

The Native Americans always say ‘Thank you!’ after their prayers for something; it’s an act of trust that the answers to their prayers are on their way. We too can act ‘as if’ it’s a done deal. Have trust in the universe!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Manifesting Happiness

March 1, 2013 By Johnathan

“Victory always starts in the head. It’s a state of mind. It then spreads with such radiance and such affirmations that destiny can do nothing but obey.” ~ Douchan Gersi

One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is basing your happiness on your life’s circumstances. Often we tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when some future event happens. “When I can make a little more money, then I’ll be happy”, “When my kid shapes up, then I’ll be happy”, “I’ll be really happy when this rocky period is over!”

The first (and smaller) of the two problems with this is that waiting around for something to happen before deciding to be happy deprives you of all the happiness you can be experiencing right now.

The much larger problem, however, with this attitude that happiness depends on something outside your own conscious intention is that it impedes the manifestation process of attaining the very things that you’re basing your future happiness upon.

How is this? Because in manifestation (as in electromagnetism) like attracts like. Joy attracts joy. Love attracts love. And happiness attracts happiness. Likewise, unhappiness attracts unhappiness, misery and sorrow attract misery and sorry, and so on.

By choosing to be happy now, regardless of your life circumstances you are claiming a tremendous power already always working within you – but now with you in charge. You can choose to be happy in the face of your life circumstances and in so doing will allow the universe to produce in your life the evidence supporting that state of happiness. The life circumstances validating your inner state of happiness.

In other words, first you feel happy then your life reorients itself around that happiness. It does not work the other way around.

If you are waiting for happiness to come in the form of some thing or event, then you will always be waiting for happiness to come. Because even if that thing or event does occur there will always be some thing else for you to instantly attach your happiness to.

Either we take ownership of our emotions or we are slaves to them, always seeking release, never finding it. There’s always something else to want: better looks, slimmer body, a loving relationship. And wants are good – they’re the seeds of creation. But if we’re the type of people who attach our happiness to the flourishing of the plant that seed has the potential to grow into, then every seed we plant will be another reason to put off our happiness for a later date. And another reason to feel anxious and worried and uncertain while we wait.

If you understand the principles of the Law of Attraction, then you know that the all-important third and final step of the process is to allow that which you desire to come into your life. And the way you do that is with feeling – emotion. The process requires you feel now what it will be like to have the fulfillment of your desires, as if it’s already happened.

For example, if you want a new car: you put the intention out there into the universe, you trust that your request has been received and granted and that the fulfillment of your desires is on its way, and then you ready yourself for its arrival by filling yourself to brimming with the feelings of fulfillment that energetically resonate with it. In other words, a new car is not going to come to someone who doesn’t feel they deserve it. And happiness does not come to someone who can’t take it.

When it comes to manifestation, happiness is a desire like any other. To manifest it outside yourself you first must manifest it inside.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Freeing Yourself Of Resistance To Having What You Want

January 12, 2013 By Johnathan

It’s no secret to you that you are your own worst enemy when it comes to having what you want. The precepts of manifestation are deceptively simple, and it turns out there is actually more we can to do get in its way than to help it along. Manifesting your desires, having what you want, requires freeing yourself of these impediments to their actualizing. And this freedom requires reversing a manifestation misconception we all have lurking inside – namely, that you have to do anything to be fulfilled.

In other words, manifestation requires mostly getting out of your own way.

How do I know that everyone has this misconception inside? Because it is a part of our culture. It is taught to us by our environment from our earliest years, and it is reinforced by almost everything we see in society around us. What is this that we’re taught, exactly? We’re taught how to resist, how to say no, how to defend ourselves, how to keep things and people and thoughts and emotions out. Most of us learn far more about saying “No,” growing up than saying, “Yes.”

Now of course there’s no argument here that we must learn to ward against negative influences in order to make our way in the world, but we cannot do so at the expense of being open to positivity. We must learn, while we practice keeping out negativity, to practice allowing in positivity as well. We must unlearn many of the strategies we’ve learned and that we’ve unconsciously integrated into our ways of being that prevent good things from coming into our lives.

So how do we do this? How do you get out of your own way? The same way you might imagine doing it if your emotions or stress level was getting in the way of your productivity. You would relax. You would loosen up. You would nourish yourself. And you would give yourself a pep talk.

Manifestation is all about energy. Everything is energy at its source, including all that you’re trying to manifest. So manifesting the “energies” you want requires putting out the right energies for their manifestation. To do this you must be a clear and open vessel.

Relaxation helps you shed layers of resistance to abundance. When you relax, you let your guard down – literally (on a physical level) and figuratively (on an emotional, spiritual level). Stretching and exercising makes you a strong and healthy, flexible and – above all – open vessel. Nourishing yourself does the same. And uplifting your spirits with affirmations and positive reinforcement puts you in the space again for good things to come.

And all of these things show the universe, the source of having all that you want, that you love and care for yourself, that you deserve to have all you desire. Which brings us to another important question.

What kind of resistances might a person unconsciously have toward their own fulfillment? For starters, as was just mentioned, a sense of not deserving it. Of not being worthy. A belief in having to work harder in order to be rewarded. Guilt, doubt, worry, shame. These are the resistances we are talking about, the ones that keep us from having what we want. And these are the very energies we must vigilantly shed.

The bottom line on freeing ourselves from resistance to having what we want is that we must remain open in order for good things to have a way in. The first step to this is recognizing that these ingrained resistances exist. And the second step is to cultivate an environment within yourself that is inhospitable for these negative influences to exist in anymore.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace; Walk in Beauty.

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He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

The Law of Attraction In A Nutshell

January 4, 2013 By Johnathan

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When the book and subsequent movie of The Secret came out, people everywhere were buzzing about its revelation: the Law of Attraction. Revealed as the key to the prolific success of some of history’s greatest minds, like Michelangelo and Thomas Jefferson, the Law of Attraction is a powerful insight into the workings of nature that can be consciously, intentional used as a tool for manifestation. A tool whose ideas underlie many, if not most, other manifestation processes.

As big a “secret” as it may be (or rather, may once have been) it is actually quite a simple concept to understand. It is divided into three steps for manifesting, or “attracting”, anything you want into your life. Those three steps are as follows:

1. Ask
2. Accept
3. Allow

Now let’s break these steps down for you, one at a time.

1. Ask

To have what you want, you first must know what you want. Asking is a process of letting the universe know what you want. And maybe even more importantly, letting it know that you know what you want.

Why is this important? Because in doing so, you’re generating a very clear and decisive energy. The source likes that. The clearer and more definitive, the better. Because it is that clarity of vision of knowing what you want, coupled with the singularity of desire that comes from asking for it that targets the “object” of your desire with laser-point accuracy.

2. Accept

Most people have some experience with step 1. Whether in prayer or goal-setting, most of you reading this have already at one time or another asked for what you want. Many of us also know (some, all to well) the experience of asking for what we want and not getting it. That is because asking for it is only the 1st step of the process, and many people either stop here or worse, take actions completely counterproductive to the law of attraction. We ask for what we want, then we promptly, clumsily get in our own way and thwart it’s manifestation.

What actions? Those they display doubt and uncertainty about getting those goals met. Like whining and fretting and complaining about “not having” it yet. Like worrying about your future should you not get it, or worse taking actions that imagine it not happening instead of taking actions that imagine success.

That’s where steps 2 and 3 come into the picture.

Step 2, or Accept, could also be called Receive, because it’s about trusting that your request was heard, and more, that it’s been granted. It’s the meaning of “Ask and ye shall Receive”: that in the asking, you instantaneously set in motion a cycle of energetic events that has the object of your desire already on its way to you.

So what do you do? You sit back and relax, content in the knowledge that your request has been heard and granted and you can move onto other things. If you don’t, and you constantly obsess over this thing you want to manifest, then you’re showing the universe that you don’t really believe it’s coming. You push it away with your distrust of the process instead of accepting that it’s on its way.

3. Allow

The other way we push the manifestation of our desires away is with a sense of undeserving-ness. We don’t act like we get what we want in life, so our life produces evidence of that. But if we act like we get what we want in life, our life produces evidence of that. We must Allow the fulfillment of our wishes to come into our life by creating the energy that supports their existence.

And the way that we do that is by feeling inside what it’s like (not what it would be like, but what it is like) to have the fulfillment of your desires here and now. If step 2 is about Knowing, step 3 is about Feeling. You must exude the energy of someone who’s living as if their next fulfilment is on its way, like a houseguest. You need do nothing but prepare your home for their arrival.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace;
Walk in Beauty.

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Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

THREE DAYS OF LOVE – A Global Celebration of Love and Kindness

December 17, 2012 By Johnathan

Greetings Fellow Co-Creators!

Please read below as a wonderful experiment is about to happen.

This year, in the face of all the dire predictions, it’s more important than ever to muster the power of intention. Our ability to manifest positive things happening has never been greater. Please join me (and millions of others) in a special pledge to speak and share words and actions of love for three days 20 – 22 December (and why not continue afterwards!).

You can join others around the world in this wonderful experiment to help celebrate love and kindness. Let’s begin the new year, a new era with the spirit of love, generosity and creativity.

I just committed to participate in something very exciting: a pledge to speak and share words and actions of love for three days from December 20-22nd.

Let’s join others around the world in this wonderful experiment to help celebrate love and kindness. The vision is to begin a new era with a spirit of love, generosity and creativity.

Many top leaders such as Deepak Chopra, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Marianne Williamson, Arielle Essex, and Neale Donald Walsch are supporting this to become a mass movement of the heart. I hope you will participate by signing this pledge and spreading the word by going to http://threedaysoflove.com/

Here’s to your manifestations!

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

Love,

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How Does Soul Retrieval Relate To Practical Psychology?

June 19, 2012 By Johnathan

“For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” ~ Jesus Christ

People are not linked up with their Soul, as their personality is not being fully self-expressed, as the Soul is the bridge to Spirit. All therapies try to make people ‘whole’ by linking people with their Soul, whether it’s mental work bringing the person to their Soul or intuitive work, the Soul to the person as in Soul Retrieval.

The way dis-ease manifests:

PHYSICAL LEVEL

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MENTAL LEVEL

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EMOTIONAL LEVEL

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SPIRITUAL LEVEL

Everything is energy, and the different vibration rates of energy are what distinguish ourselves and all manifestation of life around us. We are born with enough energy, what acupuncturists call ‘Inherent’ energy (energy ‘within’), to last us through life. It is said that a body has enough energy to power the national grid for a city for a week. But along life’s path, we can become attached to significant traumatic events, or relationship difficulties that we end up giving our power away, or it can be taken from us. When the power leaves, it creates a ‘vacuum’ in our energy fields, a type of ‘aura leakage’, through which our own soul energy leaks away. This is called Soul Loss.

Soul Loss can happen at any time when we are traumatised, physically abused, suffer from accidents etc that a part of our soul energy splits off and leaves the body and physical world from shear shock, pain and discomfort as an act of healing and preservation, the result of which over time has detrimental effects shown up by any dissociation symptoms like depression, fears, phobias or addictions. At which point the soul energy part needs to be unified with the body again.

Retrieving the power and sense of ourselves, that we gave away or had been taken from us is called Soul Retrieval. And it is the Shaman’s job to seek and return the missing soul from the ‘Otherworld’ or what the Aborigines call the ‘Dreamtime’ where the soul has been trapped, allowing the client to move forward with their life now.

To understand how soul retrieval works, we need to understand the difference between ‘Western – Left brain’ and ‘Native – Right brain’ views.

Some Left Brain or Western Beliefs that lead to separation:

¨ Time is a straight line Now ——————–> Future

¨ God is separate from us .i.e. God in Heaven

¨ We are separate from Nature

Some Right Brain Native/Shamanic Beliefs:

¨ Time is in the here and now

¨ Time is a circle (Medicine Wheel, Circle of Life)

¨ Space is a Dot

¨ Nature has Rhythms

¨ God is a part of us

¨ Everything is connected

Drumming/Rattling/Dancing/Chanting/Praying are rituals to access the ‘Higher Self’ by slowing the brain down. Drumming induces ‘Theta’ brain waves and therefore produces profound changes of awareness.

If reality is a subjective experience, which is the greater reality, the physical world or dreamtime? What of the Past? Then that could only be a mistaken subjective experience.

If a traumatic event happened to a person many years ago, for that person it is still happening, as they are re-living it in their mind with all their senses. Therefore, the Shaman journeys outside of linear time to the place where that traumatic event is still happening, in another parallel world and find and bring back the soul to the person.

Praying to each of the four directions helps us to get centred by coming out of trance and into ‘Alpha’ energy before going into an altered state of consciousness.

Each of the four directions has special energy powers and is represented by an animal. The powers from the East are represented by the Eagle, the South by the Mouse or Coyote, the West by the Bear, and the North by the Buffalo. To call upon these powers, stand and face each of the directions starting with the East and honour and pray for the animal in each direction. This allows us to become balanced and centred in the Alpha healing mode. When we are centred, then we are ready to call the helpers or guides. The Shaman becomes like a hollow bone, an instrument for Spirit to enter to communicate the Creators Will on Earth.

The Soul is the bridge between Spirit and Body. And only when the physical body is complete or balanced, which takes a life time, can we truly allow Spirit into our Body.

We tend to only express ourselves, not from our gifts of who we really are, but from our lower selves, the emotional level. Our life’s work is to unify Body, Soul and then Spirit. The Soul is sometimes called the reflection of the Spirit, and the personality is called its shadow.

How old is a Soul? Since we are working at soul level, there is always a chance that the significant event happened in a past life before the trauma in this life. You can recognise old souls by their eyes which seem to be illuminated from within. Watch babies and children communicate telepathically through the light of their eyes. Babies pick up adult thoughts by what the adult is imagining .i.e. images or symbols. As we get older we loose that skill as we learn language.

Is a New Soul ever born? Yes, sometimes.

When does the Soul enter the Body? An age old question that nobody can answer truthfully. There are theories that the soul enters at conception, after conception, at birth or shortly after birth. If you believe in a Divine plan, then you may lean towards sometime before birth. But there’s no real need to dwell on such questions as it serves no purpose.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Praying v’s Manifestation

April 14, 2012 By Johnathan

“The greater the ignorance the greater the dogmatism” – Sir William Osler

The whole basis to Lynn McTaggat’s work is that everything is a constantly fluctuating mass of energy which all of creation exists from and it is our thoughts that influence this mass of energy which shapes our individual reality. And that God = Zero Point Field or Cosmos or The Source Or Mystery. Coming from this belief, it is hard to imagine that God is a person!
Therefore, God is only a label and not a male person. The only advantage to referring to God as a person is that it makes it easier to explain life in some way, in much the same way Native Americans refer to stones as the ‘stone people’ or the ‘tree people’, because everything has consciousness.
The main disadvantage of referring to God as a person though is that you set beliefs that God is up there in the sky which leads to beliefs of separateness between us, nature, the universe, and God, which the planet is now suffering as a result.
As we are all one with everything, then we are also rain. So you pray rain. If you pray for rain, then you are not accepting that rain is a part of you. This old way of praying rain is like visualising the rain and experiencing the essence and quality of the rain/water, this way you are sending out the water vibration and then celebrating that it rained, and because it was good for the whole or good intent it actually rains.
Now, suppose that you wanted to pray for Peace as you were angry at politicians or whoever, the prayers would have no effect because of the anger vibrations rippling out. Therefore, you take on inner peace then you are naturally sending out the Peace vibration.
If you want to pray for a person’s health, you try and stimulate that person’s own healing within, by imagining/visualising the person in good health. This would be a healthy prayer coming from peace, love, compassion etc.
What we’re doing is ordering our life in the best possible way. You attract by your own ability to attract and manifest. You can only do the above if you believe that you are a co-creator or part of God. Then you have a part of creating with all. Part God is part of the Whole.

I think what Gregg Braden has said is spot on about the book Secrets of The Lost Mode of Prayer, “allowing no room for the conscious filtered mind to take a hold. Praying rain helps you avoid one’s inner critic” I would call that similar to having a ‘personality’.
If you just pray to God in the hope that He will make things better, then He will either give you what you want or not depending if you have been good or not. Then praying becomes about trying to change God’s mind, as though he had a personality to change!
If you were to create not coming from, ‘for the good of everybody’ there would be a payback in Karma by dealing with the karma. Not because God judges whether it is right or wrong as God is the Cosmos and the Cosmos does not judge.
Only when you have trust in yourself, others and the trust in the universe’s plan will anyone have true Power and Wisdom.

‘Walk in Peace;

Walik in Beauty’

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Case Studies

Dec 6, 2015Feb 4, 2021spiritbearcoach

Case Study 1: ‘Ed Orange’ – A Case Study of Anxiety and Depression

Case Presentation

Ed is a 35 year old family man who works full time. He was being treated by his General Practitioner for depression with anti-depressants and had recently just had his daily dosage doubled. Ed had been seeing a psychiatrist for over ten years.

Presenting Complaints

Ed was feeling very anxious/depressed when he referred himself to me. He had a secret debt which he had kept from his wife but who had recently just found out and was furious. Ed having been divorced once before and didn’t want to go through being left alone again, he loved his wife and their three children. He considered the whole situation as hopeless and had the belief that he was both worthless and useless. As a result he suffered from insomnia and was stressed from his workload at work.

Ed’s History

Ed’s ex-wife had run-off with the ‘Best Man’ from their wedding. He felt that not only had he lost his wife but had lost his best friend as well. Ed had been very ill with a heart condition when he was born and wasn’t expected to survive. His mother seemed to have detached herself in readiness and neglected her nurturing responsibilities as a mother. Ed had decided as a child that he must be worthless as his mother never supported him.

The Wound

There seemed to be a pattern. Ed had two wounds, main wound of being Rejection showing up as Panic Attacks, the fear of being pushed away. And Abandonment showing up as the fear of Solitude (left alone).

Coaching Plan

First we worked on his emotional state and brought down his anxious feelings to a manageable level using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). This would put him in a more resourceful state for clear thoughts to take place and could practice at home or when required.

Using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), we then looked at Ed’s negative thinking styles and found he had two: “extreme thinking” and “mind reading” and looked for alternative positive thoughts instead. Seeing the big picture of how his thoughts affect his emotions, which affect his behaviour he found enormously helpful.

CBT is a self hep treatment which focuses on changing how we feel now, a practical form of psychotherapy. It gives people the tools to make changes. Watch a short CBT information video below:

Ed began the process of un-learning unhelpful beliefs and learning to catch the negative thoughts as they occurred and after six weeks Ed is now FREE from antidepressants, is still happily married, sleeps well and as has more of a work-life balance. To his surprise his relationships with his children are noticeably better, he has more quality time to play and really be with them. His credit card debt was now under control and making large payments each month until the debt was paid off. He had a twinkle back in his eyes and a slide in his stride.

He’s now exploring new potential career paths that express who he really is and of course, always was.

“Johnathan has been a very strong influence in my life in past few months. I was depressed and could not see any way out of the dark depression. I had been to see my doctor who had put me on antidepressants and wanted me to see a psychologist, from past experiences I was reluctant to see a psychologist as I found it a very short term fix and unhelpful.

I went for my first session with Johnathan and found it to be such a positive and motivating session, I started seeing him on a weekly basses and grew stronger in myself week by week, the tools that Johnathan taught me to use have been excellent and have helped me to reduce my dosage of antidepressants with an aim of stopping them all together, which I did after six sessions with Johnathan.

The tools I have been given are not the short term fix I was avoiding but will remain with me for life and help me maintain the strength I have found within myself.” ~ Ed Orange

The wife to was happy, she bought me a bottle of champaign and gave me a big kiss and thanked me for saving their marriage. I think that’s the best testimonial I’ve ever recieved!

Case Study 2: ‘A Boy Aged Four’ – A Case Study of Feeling Sad

I had received a call from a young single mother who had a four year old son. At his school ‘kindergarten/reception’ class, her son was very shy and withdrawn but was willing to join in the practises for an up coming festival. But when it came to showing the parents their showcase, he wouldn’t perform in front of the mums and dads despite really wanting to, he would get frustrated then angry, which would then lead to some display of negative behaviour.

I decided to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) on the child and simply bypass thinking styles and challenging thoughts and beliefs etc.

EFT combines tapping on acupuncture points with words based on NLP.

I asked the mother where the father was and whether her son had been left alone in the past? The father had never been around much after the birth of their son, and the mother who worked as a make-up artist, had been offered work at the Opera House and gratefully accepted the job in order to move out of the tiny rented accommodation she had and get a mortgage for a home. The son at age two and a half years old, the mother then was offered a feature film contract but meant more crazy hours up to 70 hr weeks! So her son stayed with his grandmother while the mother went to work.

At this age, a child needs Love & Attention, which no doubt the grandmother was able to give to her grandson. But the son not understanding why he was dropped off, may have triggered a basic wounding of ‘abandonment’ perhaps feeling a little deserted. This can lead to the fear of being alone and would therefore cling onto his mother.

After tapping a mixture of ‘fear of being alone’ and ‘feeling really sad’, half an hour later we were done. We did the same again the following week for our second session.

This is an email I received a week later after the second session from the mother:

He immediately connected to Johnathan’s warm, gentle and compassionate approach and really enjoyed learning the tapping process.

As a follow on, the mother was so impressed by EFT that she went on to do the same training in EFT as I had, and further.

Case Study 3: ‘Jefferey Manning’ – A case study of Relationship Issues

Preliminary Background Case Presentation

Jefferey is a 37 year old single man who works full time. He had girlfriend called Carly for 3 years but had recently broken up with her, not through his own choice. Their relationship had become strained due to a number of factors.

Jefferey’s weight had increased and had Erectile Dysfunction (ED). He had gone to his General Practitioner who had diagnosed him that it was a physical condition caused by a lack of a balanced diet and exercise. Carly’s younger sister had recently got married, had a hockey ball hit into her front teeth and her aunt had died. Carly was feeling depressed about life.

Presenting Complaints

Jefferey was feeling sad when he referred himself to me, due to their run of bad luck over the last year. Carly had decided to end their relationship despite Jefferey taking self responsibility by loosing 11 kgs and taking magnesium that had been missing from his diet which had resolved his ED.

Carly after a holiday to reflect on life and their relationship, decided on returning home to end their relationship, feeling that Jefferey was still emotionally distant and therefore nothing had changed.

Jefferey loves his ex-girlfriend Carly and wanted her back. He felt slightly hopeless and worthless as he still wanted to remain in communication but not come across needy.

History/Wound

Jefferey’s early childhood experiences included the fear of being rejected. At age 8 his parents sent him to boarding school and dropped him off at school for the first time and he remembered wondering to himself, “Why have you left me?” This event and subsequent events later in life, including the breakup with a significant girlfriend at university, had led to the fear of being rejected by potential or current girlfriends. This has accumulated to strong beliefs about himself, such as a lack of self worth (too a lesser degree) and that its best not to open up emotionally to anyone because of the likely outcome of emotional pain with thoughts like, “I always get hurt when I really love someone”.

This belief has given rise to other behavioural problems including excessive social drinking to give him a lift and to be accepted. And other problems including his current relationship difficulties by withdrawing emotionally, which have led to feelings of sadness. When a relationship issue gets out of he’s control he would naturally feel sad and want to be alone, and so did Carly by getting more involved in her work. They both have the need for ‘love & connection’ but when they both withdrew from each other then neither of their needs were being met.

Jefferey recognises that being needy or manipulating the situation by giving the ex-girlfriend (Carly) gifts would only make the situation worse.

He also recognised that his original goal of ‘to get his girlfriend back’ was not realistic and accepted that they may or may not get back together but re-establishing ‘connection’ was a realistic outcome, which he very much wanted.

Jefferey may have two wounds, the wound of rejection shown by the fear of being pushed away and the fear of abandonment with the fear of being left alone.

Coaching Plan

First, we worked on the fear of being rejected using a NLP TimeLine technique on the issue of being left at age 8 at boarding school. He was able to see the positive intentions and strengths the event had actually given him: Being independent, resilient, a pillar of strength, always there for others, and making his own path in the world. We then used EFT on his feeling of sadness. On the SUD level he measured himself as a 6 out of 10 for sadness in that moment. After one round this was brought down to a manageable level of 3. This was an opportunity to see how Jefferey would respond to both NLP and EFT techniques and to serve him as practice to use at home on himself as required.

Using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), we then looked at Jeffery’s thinking styles and found he had three: “fortune telling”, “mind reading” and “feelings” and looked at alternative positive thoughts and asking what evidence did he have, that his negative thoughts were true. Seeing the big picture of how his thoughts affect his emotions, which then affect his behaviour, he found enormously helpful.

CBT is a self hep treatment which focuses on changing how we feel now, a practical form of psychotherapy. It gives people the tools to make changes in the moment.

Conclusion

Jeffery decided to give up being a player/coach for a hockey club and focus on self-development as he realised that he wanted to be in a committed loving relationship.

He’s happily married with a family and they now live in Canada.

Johnathan Brooks MA, PG Dip, MAC is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) has a MA in ‘Applied Coaching’ and a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ – passed with a ‘Commendation’. Is a qualified Career Coach.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), full member of the European and Mentoring Council (UK) and a professional member of the Association of NLP.