The Stage Before Goal Setting

New Year Resolution - Be More Awesome Than Last YearAs we enter the period of resolutions and goal setting for 2019, I thought it would be worth mentioning that there is an important first stage before goal setting, which is ‘reflecting’ how 2018 went?

When reflecting we want ask what happened? What was good ie what worked? And what was bad ie what didn’t work? Then list them both. This way we learn from our mistakes. Then we can ask what did we learn from those mistakes? And how would I do it differently in 2019? These then become the basis of our goal setting for 2019.

If you want to go into reflecting more deeply for a full treatment, google Gibb’s Reflection Cycle (Learning by Doing by Graham Gibbs. Oxford Polytechnic, 1988) and also google Johns’ Model of Reflection (2006), which is a set of questions and even perhaps, if you want, combine the models.

I’m not going to go into goal setting as much has been written about the topic already. The only suggestion I would make, is to ask yourself ‘Who would I become if I achieved this goal?’

You can do a future visualisation where you have this goal and ask yourself, “Now that I have this fully and completely, what does it give me, or allow me to experience? What does this allow me to do or be?”

Who you would become unearths your motivation (the why). If your goal is to be rich, who would you become? What would being rich allow you to do? Someone who simply stock piles wealth? Or, would it allow you to start a foundation for some greater good that is meaningful to you. So who you would become is perhaps Generous, an expression of who you really are. Of course we are much more than that, as possibilities are infinite. Approaching goals this way, is what leads us to ultimate fulfilment.

Meanwhile, celebrate your 2018 achievements with a glass of fizz tonight, and start your reflections tomorrow!

Happy New Year!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;

Walk in Peace.



Season’s Greetings: The Winter Solstice

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The Winter Solstice – Returning Light

The Winter Solstice, the longest night of the year, which occurs a few days before Christmas, can bring to an end the dark internal learning period, when we needed to face our shadow side and its imbalances and deficiencies and realise that with the coming return of Light, those negativities can now be perceived as an opportunity to choose again how we wish to live our lives and as a rebirth into Greater Wholeness.

M-E-R-R-Y   C-H-R-I-S-T-M-A-S !

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;

Walk in Peace.


Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks MA, PG Dip, MAC is a talented Life/Career Executive Coach with 1,500+ hrs experience, who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming),  has a Postgraduate Diploma Degree in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’, a Master of Arts in ‘Applied Coaching’ and certified Firework Career Coach. He is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), and a full member of the European and Mentoring Council (UK).

Rioters: Destroy The Buildings In Your Minds, And Not Your Cities

“If the young are not initiated into the village, they will burn it down just to feel its warmth” [African proverb]

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How you judge the rioters is a reflection of you

Unfortunately, in our society there is no ‘initiation’ from boyhood to manhood. Even our young that go to university they are still ‘Taking’ and it still takes a few years before they ‘Give’ back, so they are already quite old compared to other societies. The rioter’s burn as it gives them a lift because of their lack of self-esteem. The looters are also stuck in ‘Taking’ they have not moved onto the ‘Giving’ level.

This is all a reflection of our society where our Government ‘Take’ power and our banks and corporations ‘Take’ money by amassing wealth, and we as individuals loose faith in politics and feel poorer but strive for the same. I would prefer people destroy the buildings in their minds but what would be interesting is how do we start a modern initiation practice to go from the Taker to the Giver who takes responsibility? Without painful practices of the past like Sun Dancing involving piercing or teenage circumcision.

How you judge the rioters or looters is a reflection of you. If you see them as an angry mob then unconsciously there is anger in you. The reason being is that we’re One with the Source, which is perfect including rioters or looters. So we have to take responsibility for what we project outwards. Peace from within spreading out. #YellowVests

“Sit, be still, and listen,

For you are drunk,

And we are at the edge of the roof”

~ Rumi