Christmas Message: The Return of Light

Each year a local church sends out a card with the times of its Christmas services. The picture on the front changes annually, but the headline is always the same.

HOPE IS BORN

The idea of decorating Christmas trees has its roots in Winter solstice

This is sent to us at a time of darkness when we are in such desperate need of finding a better way for living our lives in creative harmony and support for each other.

Just when the power of the sun is at it’s very lowest, and the night of the beginning of Winter solstice (about 21st – 23rd December, this year 21st)  the very longest of the year, if we will give ourselves the opportunity, we can focus on our own dark shadow side and begin to realise when and where we, as individuals have not lived up to the ideal of expressing Good Will to all men.

If we can but acknowledge it, this dark place within is our place of hope and creativity, and the place where we begin to know ourselves as ultimately ‘light’ filled. Here we can transform our deep and long held (and mostly unconscious) fears of being exploited by betrayal, abandonment, rejection, humiliation and being the victim in an unjust world. Here we can convert those fears back to their original positive expression as at our very beginnings.

Faith in the ultimate goodness of all life, and charity as our way of serving that ideal, while Hope, with the returning power, the rebirth of Light at Christmas can inspire us to a changed future.

Have a M-E-R-R-Y  C-H-R-I-S-T-M-A-S !

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;

Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks MA, PG Dip, MAC is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Postgraduate Diploma Degree in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’, and a Master of Arts in  ‘Applied Coaching’. He is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP and a full member of European and Mentoring Council (UK).

Christmas Message: Visions Of Hope

At Christmas time we light candles to hope and look forward expectantly for the rebirth of goodwill between all men. But then we read or hear the world news.

Christmas candles of Hope for the rebirth of goodwill between all men.
Christmas candles of Hope for the rebirth of goodwill between all men.

The visions of Christmastide show no signs of becoming reality in the New Year, rather, there seems to be an increase in divisiveness. But there is still hope.

Even while candles are still burning on our Trees of Life, and daylight hours are lengthening, the news of a new shadow of darkness, of deprivation, greed and hostility appears to be separating us further from some of our fellow men.

In earlier epochs it was understood by mankind that prosperous, peaceful communities were created by women using their intuitive wisdom and inspirations, while men, providing qualities of physical strength and focus could turn those inspirations into the practical realities of daily living. Both were necessary in the creation of meaning for authentic lives, but if one quality became devalued (as those of womanhood still are) then mankind could not prosper, and wars initiated by males seeking to demonstrate or prove the superiority of their strength and dogmatic ideas compared with the wider less fixed viewpoint of women ensued.

But now we are at the very beginning of a new 21 hundred year cycle of a new era – the Aquarian Age who sign is that of female nurturing water being poured onto a thirsty earth. In the culture of some First Nation Americans, understanding this ancient scenario, after years of infighting between some tribes (including my own Northern Cheyenne) The Great Law of Peace was written.

This is called the Iroquois Constitution (around 1142 AD), and the Chiefs declared that in future leaders of tribes will be decided upon by women, for two reasons:

The first was that only women could decide with detached selflessness that which was best for the tribe – men often being influenced by the power of their personal egos; and secondly, because women were the ones who suffered the greatest pain of giving birth and losing loved ones in battle only they were the ones who can decide if war was worth dying for.

Today we have to ask ourselves if the influence, of women is going sufficiently to bring the visions of Christmas closer to manifestation. Hopefully, the time is approaching when both men and women are able to demonstrate the qualities of both, and lead integrated whole lives, able to overcome the distortions in the heart and minds of our sick presently seemingly separated brethren.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;

Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP and a full member of European and Mentoring Council (UK).

Universe Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

Manifesting Happiness

“Victory always starts in the head. It’s a state of mind. It then spreads with such radiance and such affirmations that destiny can do nothing but obey.”   ~ Douchan Gersi

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One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is basing your happiness on your life’s circumstances. Often we tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when some future event happens. “When I can make a little more money, then I’ll be happy”, “When my kid shapes up, then I’ll be happy”, “I’ll be really happy when this rocky period is over!”

The first (and smaller) of the two problems with this is that waiting around for something to happen before deciding to be happy deprives you of all the happiness you can be experiencing right now.

The much larger problem, however, with this attitude that happiness depends on something outside your own conscious intention is that it impedes the manifestation process of attaining the very things that you’re basing your future happiness upon.

How is this? Because in manifestation (as in electromagnetism) like attracts like. Joy attracts joy. Love attracts love. And happiness attracts happiness. Likewise, unhappiness attracts unhappiness, misery and sorrow attract misery and sorry, and so on.

By choosing to be happy now, regardless of your life circumstances you are claiming a tremendous power already always working within you – but now with you in charge. You can choose to be happy in the face of your life circumstances and in so doing will allow the universe to produce in your life the evidence supporting that state of happiness. The life circumstances validating your inner state of happiness.

In other words, first you feel happy then your life reorients itself around that happiness. It does not work the other way around.

If you are waiting for happiness to come in the form of some thing or event, then you will always be waiting for happiness to come. Because even if that thing or event does occur there will always be some thing else for you to instantly attach your happiness to.

Either we take ownership of our emotions or we are slaves to them, always seeking release, never finding it. There’s always something else to want: better looks, slimmer body, a loving relationship. And wants are good – they’re the seeds of creation. But if we’re the type of people who attach our happiness to the flourishing of the plant that seed has the potential to grow into, then every seed we plant will be another reason to put off our happiness for a later date. And another reason to feel anxious and worried and uncertain while we wait.

If you understand the principles of the Law of Attraction, then you know that the all-important third and final step of the process is to allow that which you desire to come into your life. And the way you do that is with feeling – emotion. The process requires you feel now what it will be like to have the fulfillment of your desires, as if it’s already happened.

For example, if you want a new car: you put the intention out there into the universe, you trust that your request has been received and granted and that the fulfillment of your desires is on its way, and then you ready yourself for its arrival by filling yourself to brimming with the feelings of fulfillment that energetically resonate with it. In other words, a new car is not going to come to someone who doesn’t feel they deserve it. And happiness does not come to someone who can’t take it.

When it comes to manifestation, happiness is a desire like any other. To manifest it outside yourself you first must manifest it inside.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Giving to Receive – From The Heart

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” ~ William Arthur Ward

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With Valentine’s Day around the corner, I thought it might be a good time to reflect the concept that: Giving produces receiving. The energy that makes up everything in the universe is constantly in motion. It is constantly flowing from one thing to another; flowing in and out and in and out again. Like breath. We cannot just inhale. We must also exhale. That gives us life. And likewise, giving of ourselves to another, or to the world gives back to us in life-giving ways.

Giving is a powerful way of engaging in the flow of all that is. It’s like jumping into the rushing river, trusting that the current will carry you somewhere beautiful. By giving, you show the universe that you trust completely that you’ll be taken care of, because how else could we take our attention off ourselves and put it on another? If we didn’t know that we were okay?

By giving, you release energy and make space for new energy to come in. Which brings us to what happens when we don’t give. When we don’t give, that energy stays bottled up inside us. In fact, imagine just that – imagine a soda in a bottle sitting unopened and forgotten. What happens? It loses its fizzle, its life-force, and grows stagnant and distasteful, never fulfilling its destiny. By only taking and never giving, by hoarding (which is really what it is) we cut ourselves off from the flow of energy, of life-force, in the universe, and cause the energy, the life-force, within us to grow stagnant, itself cut off from the flow to which it once belonged.

The way this flow works is amazingly simple – anything we put out into the flow is what we get back, and magnified. In other words, if we put out love into the world, more love is what we receive in return. If we put out scarcity and selfishness, then more scarcity and selfishness is what we receive in return. The flow is quite literal that way.

This knowledge can be an open door for you to walk through and claim untold levels of happiness and abundance. However, before you step through the door, be aware…

Receiving only comes from giving that is done without the intention of receiving any personal gain from the gift. In other words, it must be selfless giving. This is the paradox in the power of giving.

While giving produces receiving – you can’t give with the intention of doing it so that you will receive anything in return. That completely counteracts the gift of giving. So what to do? How do we make use of this knowledge if we can’t use it intentionally?

By cultivating a naturally giving nature within. Start small, looking for ways you can give of yourself, and then do so. It’s okay right now that you know you’re also doing this for your own gain. That will fade in time as the innate and instantaneous rewards of giving build up in you – those being the inner joy and fulfillment that come automatically from giving of yourself to another.

As you keep doing this, you become a naturally giving person. It will simply be a part of your nature. And by then you will no doubt have already started seeing the fruits of your efforts coming back to you, and abundantly so.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace; Walk in Beauty.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


When Everybody Wins, You Win

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Here’s some great news for you: nobody has to lose.

That’s right – nobody has to lose in order for anybody to win. You do not have to lose in order for someone else to win; and nobody has to lose in order for you to win.

And if you don’t like the competitive analogies of losing and winning, here are some other ways to look at it. Nobody has to fail in order for anybody else to succeed. Nobody has to do without in order for anybody else to be fulfilled.

The energy that comprises everything in the universe is infinitely abundant – that means there is more than enough of it for everyone. Our world may not show much evidence of this sometimes, but that doesn’t discount the fact that at its source – at our source – it’s all available to all of us. The evidence we see in our world to the contrary only shows the degree that power and greed can affect our consensual reality. And how far we’ve strayed from our natural state of infinite abundance.

There’s a term called a “zero sum game”, and it basically means that there is only one winner in the end – winner take all! Any sporting event – football, baseball, basketball, golf – is a zero sum game. As is Monopoly and gin rummy and Clue. But life is not.

Life is not a zero-sum game. Life is not winner-take-all. Life is infinite abundance.

And by virtue of simply being alive we are a part of that energy. In fact, we are one with that energy, which means that we are all one with each other. We are all connected. And that is why either we all win or none of us win. Either we all succeed, or none of us succeed. Either we all have, or none of us has. Everyone is connected, and what connects us is our infinite abundance.

Now, the way that you can engage with that connection is start to come from a place of understanding that you are not in a war with your fellow human beings for a limited supply of food and life essentials. Because it just isn’t so.

When you start to come from this new place of understanding, when you begin perceiving the world as your ally and not your enemy, as being on your side, as being a part of you, then the world starts treating you the same. This in turn makes it easier for you to trust your perception and start treating the world that way – as part of you and you a part of it. And by “the world” we’re talking about the people and creatures and environment that make it up. Because perception is one thing, it’s just a start. Action and behaviour come next.

And when you start doing this, when you start engaging with the world in the universal energetic source of all abundance, you win and everybody wins.

The key to doing this is simple: seek out win-win situations wherever you can. That is one in which everybody feels good in the end. That the solution in some way served their needs. That they were treated as fairly as everyone else.

And just watch how fast things start going your way.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace; Walk in Beauty.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


The Law of Attraction In A Nutshell

Purposeful Manifestation Through Focusing’

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When the book and subsequent movie of The Secret came out, people everywhere were buzzing about its revelation: the Law of Attraction. Revealed as the key to the prolific success of some of history’s greatest minds, like Michelangelo and Thomas Jefferson, the Law of Attraction is a powerful insight into the workings of nature that can be consciously, intentional used as a tool for manifestation. A tool whose ideas underlie many, if not most, other manifestation processes.

As big a “secret” as it may be (or rather, may once have been) it is actually quite a simple concept to understand. It is divided into three steps for manifesting, or “attracting”, anything you want into your life. Those three steps are as follows:

1.      Ask
2.      Accept
3.      Allow

Now let’s break these steps down for you, one at a time.

1. Ask

To have what you want, you first must know what you want. Asking is a process of letting the universe know what you want. And maybe even more importantly, letting it know that you know what you want.

Why is this important? Because in doing so, you’re generating a very clear and decisive energy. The source likes that. The clearer and more definitive, the better. Because it is that clarity of vision of knowing what you want, coupled with the singularity of desire that comes from asking for it that targets the “object” of your desire with laser-point accuracy.

2. Accept

Most people have some experience with step 1. Whether in prayer or goal-setting, most of you reading this have already at one time or another asked for what you want. Many of us also know (some, all to well) the experience of asking for what we want and not getting it. That is because asking for it is only the 1st step of the process, and many people either stop here or worse, take actions completely counterproductive to the law of attraction. We ask for what we want, then we promptly, clumsily get in our own way and thwart it’s manifestation.

What actions? Those they display doubt and uncertainty about getting those goals met. Like whining and fretting and complaining about “not having” it yet. Like worrying about your future should you not get it, or worse taking actions that imagine it not happening instead of taking actions that imagine success.

That’s where steps 2 and 3 come into the picture.

Step 2, or Accept, could also be called Receive, because it’s about trusting that your request was heard, and more, that it’s been granted. It’s the meaning of “Ask and ye shall Receive”: that in the asking, you instantaneously set in motion a cycle of energetic events that has the object of your desire already on its way to you.

So what do you do? You sit back and relax, content in the knowledge that your request has been heard and granted and you can move onto other things. If you don’t, and you constantly obsess over this thing you want to manifest, then you’re showing the universe that you don’t really believe it’s coming. You push it away with your distrust of the process instead of accepting that it’s on its way.

3. Allow

The other way we push the manifestation of our desires away is with a sense of undeserving-ness. We don’t act like we get what we want in life, so our life produces evidence of that. But if we act like we get what we want in life, our life produces evidence of that. We must Allow the fulfillment of our wishes to come into our life by creating the energy that supports their existence.

And the way that we do that is by feeling inside what it’s like (not what it would be like, but what it is like) to have the fulfillment of your desires here and now. If step 2 is about Knowing, step 3 is about Feeling. You must exude the energy of someone who’s living as if their next fulfilment is on its way, like a houseguest. You need do nothing but prepare your home for their arrival.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace;
Walk in Beauty.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


A CHRISTMAS BLESSING OF HOPE 2012

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Christmas candles of Hope for the rebirth of goodwill between all men.

Although all Christmases are hollowed by those who are professed Christians, this year has particular importance for all mankind, many of whom hold their own special festival around this time.

This year, because of the cyclical nature of the energies of our universe, offers a time of particular opportunity for man to enter a new era of growing awareness of the true nature of our world.

This could be described as taking a significant step along our evolutionary spiral path towards what Pierre Praderrand in his beautiful book ‘The Gentle Art of Blessing’ calls a greater awareness “of the unlimited good embedded in the very texture of the universe.”

I could here stop writing this message apart from urging you to obtain the book as gift to yourself, and extra copies to hand out or lend to the many people who feel hopeless about attracting more goodness, love, joy and a sense of wholeness into their daily lives – and that means a very great many of us, but I would also like to add a personal note and tell you about the Christmas blessing of new hope that has recently come to me through the re-telling of an old prophecy from the Amazonian and Inca peoples, (Lynne Twist’s book ‘ The Soul of Money’ and Barbara Marx Hubbard’s book ‘Birth 2012 and Beyond’)

As some of you may know, my birth parents were Native Americans (First Nations). I was adopted out of my tribes (Cheyenne & Cree) by a white couple in America, and later fostered by another couple in England. As you can imagine I was very unsure as to where I really belonged.

It was while I was writing a chapter on my life for an American book called, ‘Two Worlds: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects’ (published by Blue Hand Books 2012) that I became more aware of the differences in outlook of my two worlds.

On the one hand, I realised part of the anguish felt by indigenous people as they lost their personal identity in the gradual genocide of their tribe by absorption into other cultures, was to do with their separation from the rest of the created world – their brothers and sisters, the family of Mother Earth; while on the other hand, the more technological peoples’ side seemed to behave as if only they mattered as they wished, Father Thomas Berry calls this ‘Species Isolation’ (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Berry).

These two types of people were called in the prophecy, the Condor and the Eagle people. The Condor people were those who perceived life through the five senses and the heart, and were grounded in the spirit world. They were at risk of survival through their encounters with the Eagle people.

The Eagle people were those who perceived life through the mind, and in spite of great wealth, were also in peril of surviving. In their case because of the spiritual impoverishment.

The coming together of these two (the Head and the Heart) into what is called elsewhere, the Universal Human, was said to take place at the beginning of the third millennium – which is now, and will eventually bring a new era of ‘balance’ and ‘light’.

Chief Seattle said, “This we know, the earth does not belong to man, man belongs to the earth. All things are connected like the blood which unites one family.”

I think you will agree there are some hopeful signs that man is becoming more ecologically responsible and less self centered, and is using technology for the greater good. He is showing more compassion for suffering humanity whatever its culture. There are beginnings of unity and wholeness. I send all the blessings of Christmas to help us on the long way we have still to go.

M-E-R-R-Y Christmas and Happy New Year!

Love & Blessings

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PS: For those who think this is all too way out (Eagle people), I would like to assure them I try to keep up to date with reports on the worlds’ future from NASA as well as those from the ancient wise ones!

 

NLP Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

Christmas: A Time of Choice for Change

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Now is the time of the winter solstice and new birth, and at this beginning of another cycle of the son’s return to inspire and invigorate us, we have the choice to change and grow. Each year, we have the opportunity to learn from the pains and anxieties that have so far both dominated and restricted our daily lives, and start to see them from a less ego centered negative perspective.

This shift in perception can be a sudden event, but for most of us it means setting our feet on a path, which has (usually) seven stages. These stages are my people (Native Americans) called a Sacred Hoop of Learning, taking them forward to the place where we all began and where mankind knew itself to be a Unity.

Each traditional teaching has given us its own way of learning the value of each step on the path. For Native Americans, the metaphor of the ‘whirling rainbow’ of seven coloured lights is used to cleanse and heal those negativities, which dog our path on the way to the golden door of Unity.

In a similar way the use of coloured lights to decorate Christmas trees, symbol of the Tree of Life, lead eyes upwards to a white or golden star of enlightenment at its topmost branch. The symbol of the medicine wheel with its seven stages named after the points of the compass and above, below and within, allows us to see how we may move forward towards life of greater Trust, Abundance and Compassion; while Christianity speaks of seven negativities (or sins) being replaced by Seven Graces or Gifts of the Spirit, which are embodied in Jesus as representing the true essence of mankind. This is the Love and Goodwill towards all Creation, which we celebrate on his birthday.

Wishing you all a MERRY Christmas and may the New Year bring Love, Joy and Compassion to you.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP and a member of the European Mentoring & Coaching Council.

 


How to Make 2014 Your Best Year Yet: Part II – Making Your New Year’s Resolutions Come True

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As we reach the third weekend of January 2014, most people who made a New Year’s resolution will struggle to keep it. According to the Evolution Fresh Survey, it found that more than 46 million Americans admit to struggling with their New Year’s resolutions by the third week of January.

While the research from the University of Hertfordshire (UK) shows that only 1 in 10 of those who set goals in January are successful.

So how is your New Year’s resolution going?

As I said in part I of this two-part New Year’s resolution special, setting specific goals is the first and important step in getting more of what you want in the year to come. But it’s not the only step. The next steps involve making those goals happen, because as I remind my clients personal coaching in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, these things don’t happen on their own. You have to put in your share of the work too.

What this means is, taking each of your goals and breaking them down into smaller action steps that you can take toward making those goals happen. So, using the goal set out in part I of this special—saving £1,000 by December 31, 2014—how will you save that money? Work 10 extra hours a month? Eat dinner at home 5 nights a week instead of 6? Spend date night renting a movie at home instead of going to the theatre? Reign in holiday gift spending? Install a thermostat and keep the heat down when you’re asleep and out of the house?

Whatever you choose, something needs to change in order for change to occur. You can’t do everything the same and expect a simple statement of purpose to reel your goals in for you. You need to participate. Fortunately, as the above examples should show you, there an unlimited number of ways you can implement change in order to help make your goal and reality. You just have to choose. And if you don’t, there’s a good chance that choice will be made for you. Or, more likely perhaps, you simply won’t achieve said goal.

The goal given as an example in this special two-part post wasn’t chosen blithely. Invariably, most goals somehow involve money. But money is simply energy, a symbol of value or worth. You can’t manifest a symbol. But you can manifest the value that symbol represents for you. In other words, you manifest stuff, situations, experiences.

Therefore, whatever your goal, I leave you with this last bit of New Year’s resolution money wisdom, once you’ve started instituting the changes you’ve chosen in order to make the money available to you for the things you want, figure out what you will do with those incremental savings so that you don’t just spend it on something else. It’s wise to calculate the pound/dollar amount you’ll be saving by making those changes and then taking that money out of your account as if you were spending it and placing it in a separate account or secure location earmarked for your goal. Seeing that account or envelope building will most assuredly help it to keep growing bigger and faster from there.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


How to Make 2014 Your Best Year Yet: Part I – New Year’s Resolutions That Stick

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As we reach another New Year’s Eve, it’s time to look back on how well we have (or haven’t, as the case may be) achieved our goals of the previous year, and look ahead to how we can achieve more of what we want in the coming year. Sadly, many people find at this time that they’ve fallen far short of their expectations for themselves over the previous year, a fact that’s given New Year’s resolutions a bad name. But the truth is, with millions of people worldwide all setting intentions for the year ahead, there’s no better time to put your energy into the mix and benefit from group intention. So how do you do it in a way that works? How do you set New Year’s resolutions that stick?

The first and most important step is setting specific goals. The more specific you can be about what you want, the easier it is to achieve it, and the more likely you are to be successful in achieving it. For example, a goal of saving £1,000 by December 31, 2014 is a lot more useful than a goal of saving more. Why is this?

Because when we get specific, we put our minds to work. You want to save more? Fine. How much more? Why? What do you plan to use that money for? Why £1,000 and not £500 or £2,000? Why December and not September? All of these questions, and more, come into play when getting specific about your goal. And when you put your mind to work answering these questions, you put more of that psychic, magnetic, manifestation energy out into the universe to help attract that goal to you.

What’s more, getting specific about your goal helps you visualise the achievement of that goal. You want £1,000 to start your child’s college fund? In order to come up with that answer, you actually had to imagine your child going to college, visualise her getting her education, her diploma up there in cap and gown, her first job. Maybe you want £1,000 to redo your bathroom. That gets you visualising the bathroom you want, and that visualisation is what helps draw to you the money necessary to make it happen.

As I tell my clients life coaching in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, the more you know precisely what you want, the easier it is to get it. Use New Year’s 2014 as an opportunity to get more in touch with what you really want. And then hop on the global psychic manifestation energy train of people worldwide making New Year’s resolutions too, and put the power of group intention to work for you.

Wishing you all a HAPPY and ABUNDANT New Year!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


A Special Christmas Message For 2013

 

In a nutshell:

All manifested things have meaning. If our word cannot express the truth of what they mean, we may ignore their significance and lose out on life energy, love, enthusiasm and growth.

Is this what we are doing to ourselves?

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How many of the Christmas cards that have fallen through your letterbox have pictures of trees and stars? A good proportion I imagine.

And yet, inspite of all these representations of the Tree of Life and Light, which we send once a year to remind ourselves that our lives and all life has meaning and purpose and needs renewing, many still say the true spirit of Christmas has been lost.

Perhaps it is not the spirit and meaning of Christmas we have so lately lost. Rather, it maybe our understanding of the international language of symbols, used universally from time immemorial that we have chosen to forget in our left brained world. When words become inadequate to encompass and express the full meaning of those deepest truths all men learn from life’s direct experiences, a symbol can give an immediate apprehension of a many-levelled wholeness of meaning that is shared.

As an example for today – at it’s highest meaning and universally, and evergreen tree can symbolise man’s undying spirit, or even immortality. Like all trees it also means shelter, nourishment and protection. At the lowest level, it can merely mean somewhere to hang our baubles. There are levels between these two. Can you enlarge on their meaningfulness for you, until you sense their inner truths?

Again – for some a star is just a star, a pin point of light – a mere irrelevance in their lives, but for others and for universal man it has always meant a portal to the heavens, and access to divine guidance and chance to grow into realms beyond the physical and into a greater understanding of the oneness of creation. How far does this apply to you?

Perhaps we should look more closely at our Christmas cards, as well as acts all life manifestations and search for the message they really carry. If we can recognise their truth and inner meaning we may become inspired with purposefulness on our journey towards next year’s Christmas season.

Unless of course, we prefer the status quo stasis.

Wishing you all a MERRY Christmas and may the New Year bring Love, Joy and Compassion to you.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Talk is Cheap: Using NLP to Communicate More Effectively by Johnathan Brooks

 

I was asked by Watt Works Consultancy to write a guest blog for them. You can read it here on their site http://www.watt-works.com/2013/09/talk-is-cheap-using-nlp-to-communicate-more-effectively-by-johnathan-brooks/ or below.

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We are delighted this week to have a guest blog by Johnathan Brooks. Johnathan is a Cognitive-Behavioural Coach and Corporate Coach for AXA PPP Healthcare, who also uses NLP approaches extensively in his work. Johnathan’s Coaching practice is based in Tunbridge Wells in Kent.

“In business, communication is essential, and the more accountability and influence you have in the business, the more important it is that you communicate effectively – to employees, team members, co-workers, supervisors, contractors, clients, leads, and so on. Ordinarily we think of effective communication as a mere balance of speaking and listening. However, from the perspective of NLP, many different factors influence our ability to communicate effectively. Understanding these factors will help you communicate more effectively.

These factors fall into three categories:

1. People – who is doing the communicating
2. Messages – what these people are communicating
3. Medium – how they are communicating

People

As implied by our earlier oversimplification of communication as a matter of speaking and listening, in communication there are (at least) two parties – a speaker, or sender, and a receiver, or listener. Each of these two parties has a certain state of mind in that moment that will influence how they are both speaking and listening (sending and receiving). Then, in relation to each other, there is often a disparity of status, or power, between the two parties; this may fluctuate repeatedly throughout a conversation, or a lifetime. But in any given moment, one party is usually the dominant force and one is usually the submissive force.

Messages

This is of course what we think of most when we think of communicating: what we are saying. But there is far more going on, as you may now be starting to realise, than the mere content of your message. There is always what you are not saying; the larger message you are conveying beneath and beyond the words. This is called a ‘meta-message’ and could be something like, “I am better than you,” or “I feel guilty for something.” As you can see, these hidden ‘meta-messages’ color your intended message.

Medium

Finally there is the question of “how” you communicate, which could be looked at in a number of ways. There is of course, the actual medium of communication – speech, print, picture, body language. But there is also the context of the situation – the time and place, as it were. And there are the constrictions of culture, as different cultures imbue their people with different suppositions, expectations and rules regarding proper and improper communication.

Taking all of these factors into account when you communicate is bound to make you a better speaker, listener, team member, and leader.”

Skills in using NLP to communicate more effectively are taught on our Communication Skills and NLP for Business. These courses are available on an open-access and in-house basis. Contact Us today to find out how we can help you connect better with clients and colleagues.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life and Corporate Coach for AXA PPP Healthcare, who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


How to Raise Resilient Children

 

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At my daughter’s local primary school in Tunbridge Wells,  the Principal Head asked me to come for an hour one to one life coaching meeting with him to discuss how to build resilience in children. He had noticed over the last few year’s that the resilience in the children had deteriorated. He was concerned that many parents were putting their children under immense pressure to pass the 11 plus as we were in the grammar system area. Self harming was on the increase to 1 in 60 pupils at the school at about the age of ten, which is when the 11 plus is taken.

I was also invited to a parent forum to discuss resilience with the aim of possible content for a school booklet on the subject to help parents raise resilient children. The booklet is still an on going process. Listening to the parents complain to the Principal Head about why their child didn’t make the football team or the gymnastics team made me see how the backgrounds and negative beliefs of the parents is projected onto their children.

For example, if your son wasn’t selected for the football team and you realised that all of the selected boys birthdays were pre-christmas and your son is a post-christmas birthdate, it may well be that the six months difference in strength, speed and skill is big. But if you then tell your son this, will this empower him or give him the sense of ‘hopelessness’ and feel that it’s not worth trying? When perhaps, simply asking your son ‘So what are you going to do about it?’ allows him to take responsibility and teaches him to look for a solution for himself, rather than arguing with the school as a strategy to get your way, a model that your son would then learn from you, who then possibly becomes one of the unpleasant members in society who screams in playgrounds/parks/streets or later in the workplace as a means of getting what they want.

This got me thinking for a blog article.

One of the most difficult things a parent, guardian or teacher has to endure is watching the children they love struggle with change, adversity and loss. We can’t protect them from the realities of life, we realise in these helpless moments. But what we can do is raise our children to be resilient in such realities.

What Makes a Child Resilient

In the extensive “A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children” by Edith H. Grotberg, Ph.D. of The International Resilience Project, children draw on 3 “sources of resilience”:

  • What and whom they HAVE around them for structure, safety and support. This includes trustworthy relationships, structure in their home, positive role models, encouragement toward autonomy, and access to the necessities of their health, education, security and welfare.
  • Who they ARE as a person that makes them safe and secure in their world. This includes feeling loved and lovable, developing compassion and empathy, pride in oneself, self-responsibility, and a positive attitude.
  • What they CAN do to affect their own safety and security. This includes skills in communication, problem solving, impulse control, dealing responsibly with emotions, measuring the emotional “temperature” of themselves and others, and seeking help from the right people at the right times.

Another way Dr. Grotberg describes these qualities is as: Love, Inner Strength, and Interpersonal Skills.

In order for a child to be as resilient as possible to all circumstances, all three of these sources of resilience — love, inner strength, and interpersonal skills — must be developed to their fullest. Children must have a support system on hand to go through their toughest (and brightest) experiences with them. Children must develop the qualities of being and self-awareness required for resilience (e.g. respect for others, self-responsibility, positive attitude, willingness to help). And children must be able and empowered to interact effectively with the world in which they live (e.g. talking about their problems, controlling their negative impulses, seeking help when needed).

The American Psychological Association lists “10 Tips for building resilience in children and teens” on their website filled with great common-sense advice that we often overlook, or forget how much it matters.

This includes:

  • creating a daily routine and sticking to it
  • promoting good hygiene and self-care
  • speaking openly and honestly about the inevitability of change
  • helping your child to build strong relationships and help other people

 

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Dealing With Alcoholism

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On my return of my very first trip back from the Northern Cheyenne Reservation, summer of 1985, I had seen first hand what alcohol had done to the Native Americans. It took over four weeks back in Kent, England before I would touch a drop of alcohol again. I even thought for a while that pubs were blood money, I had that much anger about what it had done to my people.

One summer, I had a romance with a descendant of a famous Chief, by the following summer, when I went to visit her to let her know that I was back, her parents had no idea where she was and she hadn’t been back home for a few days. So I asked the younger brothers and sisters where she was and borrowed the parent’s pick-up truck to look for her. The kids would never tell their parents where she was, but would tell me.

We found her in the middle nowhere, as far as I was concerned, in what is called a ‘party house’, usually windows broken and really just a drinker’s den. She was lying asleep in the sweltering August afternoon heat and in the other room lay another older woman, both comatosed. I lifted and carried the daughter and dumped her in the back of the pick-up and drove her home. The parents pleased with my find, put her into her bedroom to sleep. There was nothing more I could do so I returned a couple of days later to see how she was to find that she was gone again. She had chosen alcohol over seeing me again. What a difference, twelve months make. So I left it, I wasn’t going down that road with her, I had to be strong.

It’s true to say on the physical level that alcohol is addictive and effects the emotional level as well. But you could also say that there’s an alcohol problem if it effects your relationships.

Many spiritual leaders and mind-body specialists now believe alcoholism is a physical manifestation of a rejection and denial of the Self. According to this perspective many alcoholics tend to be fleeing themselves or some part of themselves, refusing to confront their deep-rooted fear and shame, self-loathing, and/or inadequacy to love themselves.

Understandably, this mode of belief appears to challenge the notion that alcoholism is a disease over which the afflicted has no control. One problem with that notion, however, is that it feeds into the sense most alcoholics have of being “out of control” over themselves and their lives. Dealing with alcoholism from a mind-body perspective empowers the individual to affect positive, proactive changes in their innermost being that will presumably then reflect outwardly in positive, proactive change in their lives.

As an exercise for dealing with alcoholism on a spiritual level, try this:

1. Find a private room where you can lock the door and will not be disturbed.

2. Stand in front of a mirror – a full-length mirror is best. It is also best if you are naked, but this is something you can work up to as you practice this exercise over time.

3. Look yourself in the eyes and say aloud: “I love you.”

4. Now stay silent and breathe and listen to the denials, objections, rejections, refusals, contradictions, mockery, and all other negative statements that come up between you and the full acceptance of this statement.

5. Without judgment, without reaction, simply take a deep breathe into your belly and release all that negativity with a loud, expulsive sigh: “Ahh!”

6. Then look yourself in the eyes again, and again make that same statement aloud, “I love you.” It’s important to find something good about yourself, because you are a part of life. If you can’t love yourself, then you can’t love life.

7. Repeat Steps 5 and 6 until you are able to hear that statement and take it in without judgment, without rejection, without negation. It may take some time, but it will happen.

8. Then try this exercise with other statements, like: “I forgive myself,” “I’m worth it,” “I am good enough,” “I am in control of my actions, my life,” etc.

The beauty of this exercise is that it helps inure you to the triggers for alcoholic behaviour while working to reshape the very patterns of thought and feeling that fed this beast alcohol addiction. The more you look those patterns in the face, the weaker that beast becomes and the less power it has over you.

Also, EFT really helps with addictions. Please feel free to call me at my Tunbridge Wells, Kent life coaching practice if you’d like a free 30 min consultation to see how I can help.  This is one road I can go down with you.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Manifestation: The Problem of Proof

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A problem most of us face in trying to manifest the things and situations we want in life is proof. For whatever reason – maybe human nature, maybe the scientific method – we tend to require proof of things before we believe in them. The problem with this is that manifestation doesn’t work that way.

Think of it this way:

If a person wanting to lose weight bases their diet on proof that it’s working, they’ll likely never stick with the diet long enough to see it to fruition.

If a person wanting to curry the affection of a certain party was waiting for proof that party returned their secret affections, they may never take the initiative that would break that ice and get the romance underway.

In my life coaching sessions in Tunbridge Wells, Kent I am telling people all the time: in the language of manifestation, proof comes second; belief and trust comes first. Decisive action comes first. Decision is action, in the language of manifestation. You demonstrate your belief and trust to the universe by taking decisive action upon it, independently of any proof that what you’re doing will yield the desired results.

Proof is a hindrance. A barrier. An obstacle to getting what you want. Decisive action is your way through it. Then proof will follow. Whenever you feel blocked, try this exercise:

1. Think of a goal, then visualise it and ask yourself ‘How does it feel to have it?’ Ideally, something you’ve wanted to manifest but feel stifled taking action on, perhaps because you’re waiting for something else to happen first.

2. Imagine a Genie in a Lamp granting you this wish, this goal. You still have to take the actions required to get it, but you are now guaranteed success. The other chips that are out of your control, those things you’ve been waiting to happen first, will fall where they must to ensure your success.

3. What is the first or critical actions you would take, knowing this?

4. Take that action.

Repeat steps 3 and 4 as necessary, until you have achieved your goal.

The Native Americans always say ‘Thank you!’ after their prayers for something; it’s an act of trust that the answers to their prayers are on their way. We too can act ‘as if’ it’s a done deal. Have trust in the universe!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Life Coaching: Do Clients That Suffer Really ‘Ask’ For it?

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In my life coaching practice in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, when listening to clients’ stories, I listen not to the content of their story, but to the context and structure. How did they get into this situation/mess? Or, How do they do that (the issue)? Basic life coaching will simply work on those levels, which is fine. But, if one really listens, the client will also talk about how the issue ‘wounds’ them, but gets missed by the life coach or even by therapists.

On this deeper level, you can then ask how has the wound continued to pop up through out their lives way before the issue that they came to seek help for? Their life script! But when did this wound really start, could they somehow have brought the wound into this lifetime? Now, we’re really going even deeper to their core ‘wounding’. And deeper still, could we therefore all not only have chosen our wounding but also our parents before birth?

In a previous article I wrote about ‘Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth?’ And is also worth reading to shed more light on the subject. Read here: /?p=160

However, this is not readily accepted by the average person’s belief system of having to experience something to believe it, after all ‘seeing is believing’. Or is it? Can we really trust our perception of events if we project outwards, after generalising, distorting and deleting the information in our brains?

The subject raised is of course a vast one of the evolutionary expansion of the brain, and if you have not already read it I would suggest you read Deepak Chopra’s and Rudolph Tanzi’s ‘Super Brain’, 20012, for the relationship of mind, brain and consciousness. Another useful book is Llyn Roberts ‘Shaping Shifting Into Higher Consciousness’, 2010.

The first issue of choosing one’s parents before birth, I cannot do better than refer you to the incarnation process and soul counselling before conception as have been described by Mme Blazatsky, Alice Bailey, Phoebe Benedict and Eva Pierrakos and apparently depends upon:

1. The maturity of the incoming soul, and

2. The expectant parent with providing the needed life experiences for the fulfilment of the future life task of their child.

So here we come to people’s/client’s need to experience and their (non) belief system. I would first ask:

What is an experience for? The answer has been given, as ‘Every experience is a way to understand and move towards a greater awareness of our journey of inner growth towards Oneness.’ But no experience happens by chance and everything has higher purpose and meaning so the goal is out of separatism into wholeness. A Course In Miracles says, “The choice of the goal is mine, I chose the feelings I experience and I am responsible for what I see”(my reality).

So the problems and painful experiences I encounter through life are:

1. Inherited as part of my soul task, and

2. From my early conditioning and these wounds are named by at least three writers as: Rejection, Abandonment, Humiliation, Betrayal, and Injustice.

And my attitude towards life or belief system about the world is filtered through a mind-set of feelings, thoughts, ideas, and memories that effect my perceptions.

A Course In Miracles says, ‘The atonement (Oneness) might be equated with total escape from the Past and total lack of interest in the Future.’ Heaven is here, now. It is our one responsible to except this atonement. If our intention directs our development process towards healing, wholeness/home this is our life purpose and our unconscious mind will bring into consciousness outer life opportunities for growth.

To say you cannot believe in anything you have not experience is perhaps saying some experiences are too painful to face and victimhood is preferable to the responsibilities of empowerment.

I therefore suggest we all consider which type of wounding resonates with you the most and reflect on the mask you have chosen to wear to hide from the problems you have yet to solve.

These masks maybe of:

  1. Withdrawal,
  2. Dependence,
  3. Masochism (emotional/mental abuse),
  4. Control, or
  5. Rigidity/Denial

Ref: Lise Bourbeau ‘Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self’ 2001. 

I hope this addresses a small part of our questions. I like to go much deeper than your average life coach in Tunbridge Wells, Kent. I’ve had too within my own life otherwise our stuff (wounds) will keep on resurfacing!

“In every work of genius, we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 


Steve Covey’s Time Management Matrix

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Time Management is a common subject that comes up when life coaching in Tunbridge Wells, Kent. And when it does, I often ask if my client is familiar with the Time Management Matrix made popular by Steve Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It’s a simple system anyone can use to reprioritise your efforts in every area of life, to become more efficient and effective in all you do.

In this matrix, all the tasks you could possibly perform are divided into four categories, each given its own quadrant on a chart. The four quadrants are:

  1. Important and Urgent: including tasks like deadlines and emergencies
  2. Important but Not Urgent: including tasks like learning and planning
  3. Not important but Urgent: like interruptions and distractions
  4. Not important and Not Urgent: like entertainment and busy work

The biggest lesson of this system is that while the first quadrant is the most important for accomplishing short term goals, the second quadrant is actually the most important for accomplishing long term goals. It’s also, as I find when talking with clients life coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent, the quadrant that gets ignored the most. Tasks like reading and learning, goal setting and planning, tend to be the tasks that get pushed ahead in place of tasks with more perceived urgency, but not more importance.

The lesson I tell my life coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent clients, and the lesson for you, from Covey’s Four Quadrant system is to take care of all urgent and important tasks (Quadrant 1) as quickly as you can. Get them out of the way. And then focus the majority of your time and energy in Quadrant 2, taking on those tasks that will help you achieve your larger, longer term goals.

“What’s talked about is a dream. What’s envisioned is exciting. What’s planned becomes possible. What’s scheduled is real.” ~ Anthony Robbins

“Anything else than a conscious commitment to the important, is an unconscious commitment to the unimportant.” ~  Steven Covey

 

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.