As we enter the period of resolutions and goal setting for 2019, I thought it would be worth mentioning that there is an important first stage before goal setting, which is ‘reflecting’ how 2018 went?
When reflecting we want ask what happened? What was good ie what worked? And what was bad ie what didn’t work? Then list them both. This way we learn from our mistakes. Then we can ask what did we learn from those mistakes? And how would I do it differently in 2019? These then become the basis of our goal setting for 2019.
If you want to go into reflecting more deeply for a full treatment, google Gibb’s Reflection Cycle (Learning by Doing by Graham Gibbs. Oxford Polytechnic, 1988) and also google Johns’ Model of Reflection (2006), which is a set of questions and even perhaps, if you want, combine the models.
I’m not going to go into goal setting as much has been written about the topic already. The only suggestion I would make, is to ask yourself ‘Who would I become if I achieved this goal?’
You can do a future visualisation where you have this goal and ask yourself, “Now that I have this fully and completely, what does it give me, or allow me to experience? What does this allow me to do or be?”
Who you would become unearths your motivation (the why). If your goal is to be rich, who would you become? What would being rich allow you to do? Someone who simply stock piles wealth? Or, would it allow you to start a foundation for some greater good that is meaningful to you. So who you would become is perhaps Generous, an expression of who you really are. Of course we are much more than that, as possibilities are infinite. Approaching goals this way, is what leads us to ultimate fulfilment.
Meanwhile, celebrate your 2018 achievements with a glass of fizz tonight, and start your reflections tomorrow!
Happy New Year!
’til we meet again,
Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.
‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony’
BIO: Johnathan Brooks MA, PG Dip, MAC is an expert in Life/Career Executive Coach with 1,500+ hrs experience, who has trained in a wide range of personal development methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming), has a Postgraduate Diploma Degree in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’, a Master of Arts in ‘Applied Coaching’ and certified Firework Career Coach. He is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.
He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC), full member of the European and Mentoring Council (UK) and a professional member of the Association of NLP.