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Why Me – Spirit Bear Coaching

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Johnathan Brooks MA, PG Dip, MAC is a Master Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of coaching methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad (level 1, University of West of England), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming), has a MA in ‘Applied Coaching’ from Derby University and a Postgraduate Diploma degree in ‘Coaching and NLP’, which he passed with a ‘Commendation’ from Kingston University. Is also a licensed Firework Career Coach.

Johnathan is a registered full member of the Association for Coaching UK (MAC), master coach member of the European Mentoring & Coaching Council and professional member of The Association for NLP.

Benefits of my coaching At some point in all our lives we face challenges but just talking to family, friends or Doctors isn’t going to be enough or adequately dealt with, though they mean well. They will unknowingly, be biased with their own view of life and try and fix you.

There are times when you want to speak to someone who doesn’t know you or your background and can listen, empathise and guide you to find your own solutions. I am experienced and passionate about coaching as it’s a journey of adventure into the unknown. I ask questions that allow you to reflect on your life and as you do you can begin to see the world as it is without confused perceptions drawing out your inner greatness with clarity, without me projecting or judging.

There isn’t a one size fits all solution to people’s problems, and my coaching services are truly unique, having studied a wide variety of recognised counselling techniques, a combination of old and new thinking developments. Using a blend of NLP Coaching, EFT and CBT, we’ll get to the core of your thoughts, feelings, behaviour and bring out your true Self, identifying your life purpose and take actionable steps to making your goals and dreams a reality.

Some of my coaching programmes, are very structured with homework. And, sometimes it’s a less structured style, dependant on what’s going on with the client at that time.

My coaching philosophy is that I am simply a catalyst. I am not here to teach anything, as people already know it at a deeper level. I am simply here to remind people who they really are and draw out their own innate self healing.

I work with a variety of wellbeing issues including depression, anxiety, panic attacks, stress, lack of confidence, relationships, anger, career, life/work balance and life purpose.

Before making a commitment, ask yourself if you are ready to change? And remember, change doesn’t happen overnight.

I am known for coaching, the life coaches and mentoring those that want to become coaches.

I’m based in Tunbridge Wells, where I offer life coaching locally as well as online.

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Manifestation: The Problem of Proof

July 5, 2013 By Johnathan

A problem most of us face in trying to manifest the things and situations we want in life is proof. For whatever reason – maybe human nature, maybe the scientific method – we tend to require proof of things before we believe in them. The problem with this is that manifestation doesn’t work that way.

Think of it this way:

If a person wanting to lose weight bases their diet on proof that it’s working, they’ll likely never stick with the diet long enough to see it to fruition.

If a person wanting to curry the affection of a certain party was waiting for proof that party returned their secret affections, they may never take the initiative that would break that ice and get the romance underway.

In my life coaching sessions in Tunbridge Wells, Kent I am telling people all the time: in the language of manifestation, proof comes second; belief and trust comes first. Decisive action comes first. Decision is action, in the language of manifestation. You demonstrate your belief and trust to the universe by taking decisive action upon it, independently of any proof that what you’re doing will yield the desired results.

Proof is a hindrance. A barrier. An obstacle to getting what you want. Decisive action is your way through it. Then proof will follow. Whenever you feel blocked, try this exercise:

1. Think of a goal, then visualise it and ask yourself ‘How does it feel to have it?’ Ideally, something you’ve wanted to manifest but feel stifled taking action on, perhaps because you’re waiting for something else to happen first.

2. Imagine a Genie in a Lamp granting you this wish, this goal. You still have to take the actions required to get it, but you are now guaranteed success. The other chips that are out of your control, those things you’ve been waiting to happen first, will fall where they must to ensure your success.

3. What is the first or critical actions you would take, knowing this?

4. Take that action.

Repeat steps 3 and 4 as necessary, until you have achieved your goal.

The Native Americans always say ‘Thank you!’ after their prayers for something; it’s an act of trust that the answers to their prayers are on their way. We too can act ‘as if’ it’s a done deal. Have trust in the universe!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 

Writing Your Own Future: A Visualisation

January 25, 2013 By Johnathan

“Imagination is more important than knowledge. For while knowledge defines all we currently know and understand, imagination points to all we might yet discover and create” ~ Albert Einstein

The past is in the past. It’s behind us and there’s little to nothing we can do about it. What we can do, however, is put our eye on the future and plant our feet in the present and get moving toward the life of our dreams.

Because you can do that, no matter what your past. No matter where you’ve come from, you have the same infinite power to write your own life story from this point on. Everyone can do it, and it’s not even hard.

All that writing your future entails is being as crystal clear as you can be on what that future is like, and then start living from a place of total confidence and trust that this indeed will be your future.

The first part of this is easy. Most of us know what we want. In fact, there’s a good chance that you already have a Want List or a Goal List or some such other similar accounting of the life you dream of. But a list does not a vision make. When we talk about being crystal clear about what you want, we’re serious. You need to gaze deeply into your crystal ball and examine every last detail of this perfect future of yours.

More than just knowing it, you need to smell it, touch it, taste it. The more specific you can be about the future you’re writing, the better. Imagine yourself an author, in fact, penning a novel of this future of yours. You wouldn’t just write, “She got a new house.” You’d be writing about its style, size, color, history, the reason you loved it so much you just knew it was the one you had to have, and the circumstances of finding it and of course, the joyous move-in day.

So that’s the first part. The next part doesn’t seem as easy for people.

Many people set goals for their future and then immediately go back to living their lives as if that future’s never going arrive. But that doesn’t manifest anything more than just life they’ve created for themselves while they’re sitting around waiting for their goals to happen.

You don’t have to make your dreams come true. The universe has already got that covered. You just have to let them come true, Law of Attraction. That is, you have to start acting ‘as if” though you know that it’s going to happen.

You don’t spend much time wondering if your birthday is going to happen each year, do you? Of course it’s going to happen! All you do is start getting ready to celebrate. If you’ve been invited to a wedding, you can be pretty sure that when you show up at the given address on the given date and time, there’s going to be a wedding going on there. This is what we mean by acting as though you know it’s going to happen.

Don’t live your life preparing yourself for your dreams never to come true. Live your life preparing for their imminent arrival. Just like you would have to assemble the right outfit to wear to this aforementioned wedding, you also have to make the appropriate preparations for your dreams to come true.

That means making the choices that align with them happening, and not spending so much time protecting yourself “in case” they don’t happen.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace; Walk in Beauty.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 

When You Achieve Your Goal, Ask Yourself:

June 13, 2011 By admin

Now that I have this fully and completely, what does it give me, or allow me to experience? What does this allow me to do or be?

 

The Law of Attraction In A Nutshell – Spirit Bear Coaching

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The Law of Attraction In A Nutshell

January 4, 2013 By Johnathan

‘Purposeful Manifestation Through Focusing’

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Everything Is Energy Including Your Thoughts – What You Focus On, You Attract.

When the book and subsequent movie of The Secret came out, people everywhere were buzzing about its revelation: the Law of Attraction. Revealed as the key to the prolific success of some of history’s greatest minds, like Michelangelo and Thomas Jefferson, the Law of Attraction is a powerful insight into the workings of nature that can be consciously, intentional used as a tool for manifestation. A tool whose ideas underlie many, if not most, other manifestation processes.

As big a “secret” as it may be (or rather, may once have been) it is actually quite a simple concept to understand. It is divided into three steps for manifesting, or “attracting”, anything you want into your life. Those three steps are as follows:

1.      Ask
2.      Accept
3.      Allow

Now let’s break these steps down for you, one at a time.

1. Ask

To have what you want, you first must know what you want. Asking is a process of letting the universe know what you want. And maybe even more importantly, letting it know that you know what you want.

Why is this important? Because in doing so, you’re generating a very clear and decisive energy. The source likes that. The clearer and more definitive, the better. Because it is that clarity of vision of knowing what you want, coupled with the singularity of desire that comes from asking for it that targets the “object” of your desire with laser-point accuracy.

2. Accept

Most people have some experience with step 1. Whether in prayer or goal-setting, most of you reading this have already at one time or another asked for what you want. Many of us also know (some, all to well) the experience of asking for what we want and not getting it. That is because asking for it is only the 1st step of the process, and many people either stop here or worse, take actions completely counterproductive to the law of attraction. We ask for what we want, then we promptly, clumsily get in our own way and thwart it’s manifestation.

What actions? Those they display doubt and uncertainty about getting those goals met. Like whining and fretting and complaining about “not having” it yet. Like worrying about your future should you not get it, or worse taking actions that imagine it not happening instead of taking actions that imagine success.

That’s where steps 2 and 3 come into the picture.

Step 2, or Accept, could also be called Receive, because it’s about trusting that your request was heard, and more, that it’s been granted. It’s the meaning of “Ask and ye shall Receive”: that in the asking, you instantaneously set in motion a cycle of energetic events that has the object of your desire already on its way to you.

So what do you do? You sit back and relax, content in the knowledge that your request has been heard and granted and you can move onto other things. If you don’t, and you constantly obsess over this thing you want to manifest, then you’re showing the universe that you don’t really believe it’s coming. You push it away with your distrust of the process instead of accepting that it’s on its way.

3. Allow

The other way we push the manifestation of our desires away is with a sense of undeserving-ness. We don’t act like we get what we want in life, so our life produces evidence of that. But if we act like we get what we want in life, our life produces evidence of that. We must Allow the fulfillment of our wishes to come into our life by creating the energy that supports their existence.

And the way that we do that is by feeling inside what it’s like (not what it would be like, but what it is like) to have the fulfillment of your desires here and now. If step 2 is about Knowing, step 3 is about Feeling. You must exude the energy of someone who’s living as if their next fulfilment is on its way, like a houseguest. You need do nothing but prepare your home for their arrival.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace;
Walk in Beauty.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

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 JC Piech says:

 

Hi there Johnathan. The thing about this which makes it hard for me to believe, is when you ‘ask the universe’ for something, who/what are you really asking? It seems to work on the basis that the ‘universe’ is ‘out there’ and able to create, able to ‘give you’ what you asked for, as long as you are able to receive it. I don’t see the universe as being a separate thing.
What are your thoughts on this?

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Johnathan says:

 

Hello JC, The universe isn’t separate. We are One with Everything – Manifestation is a Reflection. Therefore, you have it already it’s there for the taking!

What started the world? A: All that Is, the Source. Where does thought come from? Is your Source different to mine? A: No.
All is manifestation from the Source, the stone, the tree, that is in everything.

If I want to stop smoking, I don’t say I want to stop smoking as the ‘want’ focuses on the lacking. But I could put it in the positive and say, “My lungs are getting clearer and clearer each day.”

It also depends on what we mean by I ‘want’. If a person says “I want a house’. They could say “I need shelter” and then imagine the warmth and say thank you, before getting it. And it’s the same with wanting to be rich. Money is just energy, what would you spend it on, a bigger home for all the family? Or, is it personal desires for a castle?

Why do you want it? If I want a big diamond rock on my finger, will that help me to evolve?

We may or may not get what we want, but we’ll always get what we need. Ask and you shall receive provided that you trust!

If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)

If evolution is an expansion of consciousness, then One’s desires are reflected from the level we have achieved until all desires are satisfied in Oneness.

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Edward says:

Thank you for reminding us of this. A clear and well written synopsis indeed!

 

Manifesting Happiness – Spirit Bear Coaching

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Manifesting Happiness

March 1, 2013 By Johnathan

“Victory always starts in the head. It’s a state of mind. It then spreads with such radiance and such affirmations that destiny can do nothing but obey.”   ~ Douchan Gersi

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To manifest it outside, you first must manifest it inside!

One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is basing your happiness on your life’s circumstances. Often we tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when some future event happens. “When I can make a little more money, then I’ll be happy”, “When my kid shapes up, then I’ll be happy”, “I’ll be really happy when this rocky period is over!”

The first (and smaller) of the two problems with this is that waiting around for something to happen before deciding to be happy deprives you of all the happiness you can be experiencing right now.

The much larger problem, however, with this attitude that happiness depends on something outside your own conscious intention is that it impedes the manifestation process of attaining the very things that you’re basing your future happiness upon.

How is this? Because in manifestation (as in electromagnetism) like attracts like. Joy attracts joy. Love attracts love. And happiness attracts happiness. Likewise, unhappiness attracts unhappiness, misery and sorrow attract misery and sorry, and so on.

By choosing to be happy now, regardless of your life circumstances you are claiming a tremendous power already always working within you – but now with you in charge. You can choose to be happy in the face of your life circumstances and in so doing will allow the universe to produce in your life the evidence supporting that state of happiness. The life circumstances validating your inner state of happiness.

In other words, first you feel happy then your life reorients itself around that happiness. It does not work the other way around.

If you are waiting for happiness to come in the form of some thing or event, then you will always be waiting for happiness to come. Because even if that thing or event does occur there will always be some thing else for you to instantly attach your happiness to.

Either we take ownership of our emotions or we are slaves to them, always seeking release, never finding it. There’s always something else to want: better looks, slimmer body, a loving relationship. And wants are good – they’re the seeds of creation. But if we’re the type of people who attach our happiness to the flourishing of the plant that seed has the potential to grow into, then every seed we plant will be another reason to put off our happiness for a later date. And another reason to feel anxious and worried and uncertain while we wait.

If you understand the principles of the Law of Attraction, then you know that the all-important third and final step of the process is to allow that which you desire to come into your life. And the way you do that is with feeling – emotion. The process requires you feel now what it will be like to have the fulfillment of your desires, as if it’s already happened.

For example, if you want a new car: you put the intention out there into the universe, you trust that your request has been received and granted and that the fulfillment of your desires is on its way, and then you ready yourself for its arrival by filling yourself to brimming with the feelings of fulfillment that energetically resonate with it. In other words, a new car is not going to come to someone who doesn’t feel they deserve it. And happiness does not come to someone who can’t take it.

When it comes to manifestation, happiness is a desire like any other. To manifest it outside yourself you first must manifest it inside.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Comments:

Ezine:

Thank you, I’ve recently been searching for information about this topic for a while and yours is the best I’ve discovered so far.
However, what in regards to the conclusion? Are you certain about the source

Johnathan:

Hello Ezine,

Here are some excellent books (source) on the subject from a scientific point of view:
• The Biology of Belief – Bruce Lipton
• Spontaneous Evolution – Bruce Lipton
• The Science of Oneness – Malcolm Hollick
• Waking up in Time – Peter Russell
• Super Brain – Deepak Chopra and Rudolph E. Phd Tanzi (just came out)
• It’s the Thought That Counts – David Hamilton
• How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body – David Hamilton
• Why Kindness is Good for You – David Hamilton

Heartmath Instiute – http://www.heartmath.org This is a wonderful scientific based website that has many books, software, programmes and courses that one can do and I highly recommend any of them, some are free. Very interesting experiments like measuring the distance, of a well balanced, individual’s heart vibration can go to.

Blessings,
Johnathan