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Manifestation: The Problem of Proof

A problem most of us face in trying to manifest the things and situations we want in life is proof. For whatever reason – maybe human nature, maybe the scientific method – we tend to require proof of things before we believe in them. The problem with this is that manifestation doesn’t work that way.

Think of it this way:

If a person wanting to lose weight bases their diet on proof that it’s working, they’ll likely never stick with the diet long enough to see it to fruition.

If a person wanting to curry the affection of a certain party was waiting for proof that party returned their secret affections, they may never take the initiative that would break that ice and get the romance underway.

In my life coaching sessions in Tunbridge Wells, Kent I am telling people all the time: in the language of manifestation, proof comes second; belief and trust comes first. Decisive action comes first. Decision is action, in the language of manifestation. You demonstrate your belief and trust to the universe by taking decisive action upon it, independently of any proof that what you’re doing will yield the desired results.

Proof is a hindrance. A barrier. An obstacle to getting what you want. Decisive action is your way through it. Then proof will follow. Whenever you feel blocked, try this exercise:

1. Think of a goal, then visualise it and ask yourself ‘How does it feel to have it?’ Ideally, something you’ve wanted to manifest but feel stifled taking action on, perhaps because you’re waiting for something else to happen first.

2. Imagine a Genie in a Lamp granting you this wish, this goal. You still have to take the actions required to get it, but you are now guaranteed success. The other chips that are out of your control, those things you’ve been waiting to happen first, will fall where they must to ensure your success.

3. What is the first or critical actions you would take, knowing this?

4. Take that action.

Repeat steps 3 and 4 as necessary, until you have achieved your goal.

The Native Americans always say ‘Thank you!’ after their prayers for something; it’s an act of trust that the answers to their prayers are on their way. We too can act ‘as if’ it’s a done deal. Have trust in the universe!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.



Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.


Writing Your Own Future: A Visualisation

“Imagination is more important than knowledge. For while knowledge defines all we currently know and understand, imagination points to all we might yet discover and create” ~ Albert Einstein

The past is in the past. It’s behind us and there’s little to nothing we can do about it. What we can do, however, is put our eye on the future and plant our feet in the present and get moving toward the life of our dreams.

Because you can do that, no matter what your past. No matter where you’ve come from, you have the same infinite power to write your own life story from this point on. Everyone can do it, and it’s not even hard.

All that writing your future entails is being as crystal clear as you can be on what that future is like, and then start living from a place of total confidence and trust that this indeed will be your future.

The first part of this is easy. Most of us know what we want. In fact, there’s a good chance that you already have a Want List or a Goal List or some such other similar accounting of the life you dream of. But a list does not a vision make. When we talk about being crystal clear about what you want, we’re serious. You need to gaze deeply into your crystal ball and examine every last detail of this perfect future of yours.

More than just knowing it, you need to smell it, touch it, taste it. The more specific you can be about the future you’re writing, the better. Imagine yourself an author, in fact, penning a novel of this future of yours. You wouldn’t just write, “She got a new house.” You’d be writing about its style, size, color, history, the reason you loved it so much you just knew it was the one you had to have, and the circumstances of finding it and of course, the joyous move-in day.

So that’s the first part. The next part doesn’t seem as easy for people.

Many people set goals for their future and then immediately go back to living their lives as if that future’s never going arrive. But that doesn’t manifest anything more than just life they’ve created for themselves while they’re sitting around waiting for their goals to happen.

You don’t have to make your dreams come true. The universe has already got that covered. You just have to let them come true, Law of Attraction. That is, you have to start acting ‘as if” though you know that it’s going to happen.

You don’t spend much time wondering if your birthday is going to happen each year, do you? Of course it’s going to happen! All you do is start getting ready to celebrate. If you’ve been invited to a wedding, you can be pretty sure that when you show up at the given address on the given date and time, there’s going to be a wedding going on there. This is what we mean by acting as though you know it’s going to happen.

Don’t live your life preparing yourself for your dreams never to come true. Live your life preparing for their imminent arrival. Just like you would have to assemble the right outfit to wear to this aforementioned wedding, you also have to make the appropriate preparations for your dreams to come true.

That means making the choices that align with them happening, and not spending so much time protecting yourself “in case” they don’t happen.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Peace; Walk in Beauty.



Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.


When You Achieve Your Goal, Ask Yourself:

Now that I have this fully and completely, what does it give me, or allow me to experience? What does this allow me to do or be?



Ego: What Is It And Is It Important?

Ego Self, or Local Self our Human Nature

Ego = Personality = Thought, Emotion and Physical levels.

The personality is also called the Egoic Self. There are many sub personalities within the ego self – fear, anxiety, jealousy, possessiveness, lack of self worth etc.

The Ego is not destroyed it is TRANSCENDED.

“Find me somebody who has detached his emotional and psychological ego from the real Self, without having to deny the place it plays in the scheme of things and without slaying any part of himself because the transcendence is there….a direct pathway to the Soul.” ~ Ernest Holmes

There is nothing wrong with ‘ego’ itself if we definite it as ‘personality’. Having a personality is fine and makes for some interesting characters and choices in life. It is not bad either, but patterns of reactivity (habits) have become ingrained over many incarnations because it (the ego personality) suffers from the illusion that it is separate from the Source of our Being.

Problems arise if we only operate from our ego alone as our personalities are unreliable and our ego is not all that we are.

We are body, mind, spirit, soul, emotions as well.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.



Do You Have A Difficult Question Or Decision To Make About Your Future?

Have you got a burning question that you just can’t seem to find the answer to? It could be a simple question, such as: ‘Should I go on holiday with this hunky guy I only just met?’ Never an easy one, when it’s all expenses paid! Or, should I accept this job offer or that one?

Divination can help. Complete the following exercise, using a pad and pen, to find the answer. The whole exercise should take about 20 minutes.

1. Go for a relaxing walk outside. (If you are self conscious, you can do this exercise in your living-room, but a walk is more fun). During the walk, find a place of balance and stand on the dividing line. For example, where a pavement meets a road or where sunlight creates a shadow.

2. Close your eyes and state your intention, i.e. ‘My intention is to answer my question.’ Be clear with your intent as you state it, then ask your question: ‘My question is…’ Then, turn 360 degrees and stop. Open your eyes and write down one thing that catches your eye. This could be anything, a red sign, a tree, a bird etc.

3. Continue your walk until you find another place of balance and repeat the exercise in point 2.

4. Repeat again, for a total of 3 times. Make sure each time to state your intention and your question, and to stop at a different place.

5. Write a one paragraph story that includes the three objects that you noticed. Relate the story to your question, and like magic, you have your answer. Not sure how? Here’s how it works.

Using the above example, let’s say your 3 objects were: A plane, the colour red, and trees.

Your story could go: One beautiful day I was walking along when all of a sudden a PLANE crashed in front of me and ploughed into the TREES and burst into a RED ball of flames.

How does this relate to the question: Should I go on holiday with this hunk? Try and have a think.

Spirit Bear says that it doesn’t mean that the plane you catch together will crash and you both die, just that the holiday romance probably will crash and end in disaster.

We all know the answers to our questions at a deeper unconscious level, and this exercise simply allows the unconscious to direct our story, informing our conscious mind of the answer, which seemingly appears to us ‘as if’ it were magic. And you thought you chose the objects and wrote the story!

When we don’t listen to the answers and do what we want to do what ever, that is when our ego (personality) interferes with our core-self. This is when problems arise in our lives and we wonder why it always happens to us.

Have fun and enjoy the walk and just go with the flow.

Til we meet again.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.


What people have said who have tried this:

The answers lie inside me!

“(Above Exercise) It reminded me that the answers lie inside me, as do the tools to get to them, I just need to make myself stand still for long enough for them to come to the surface.”

~ RH.

It was just right for me!

“I used Johnathan’s exercise to address a long-standing question and found a straightforward, comforting and gentle answer came to me, based on my deep core identity! Right at that moment in time, it was just right for me!”

~ Georgina, Counsellor and Psychotherapist ~ South Wales.