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Why Positive Thinking Works – Spirit Bear Coaching

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Why Positive Thinking Works

March 16, 2013 By Johnathan

When you give a child praise for behaving in a desired fashion, then you help to encourage the personal development of those behaviours into a good habit (life coaching and especially EFT is very effect with children that I have found in my in my practice in Tunbridge Wells, Kent). In the same manner, when you focus your attention on the positive aspects of your life (and life in general) then you encourage more of those positive things to happen until they become your life.

Positive thinking is like praise a child for wanted behaviour and negative thinking is like scolding a child for unwanted behaviour. By praising a child for wanted behaviour, you are by no means ignoring the fact that unwanted behaviour does exist. And likewise, by thinking positively, you are not ignoring the fact that negative influences exist. You are just choosing to put your attention where it does you more good than harm.

Because here is the thing about your attention. It is very powerful. The power of your attention is no less than power of creation. Your attention, like everything else in the universe, is energy. When you focus your attention on something, it is like you are sending a beam of energy to that thing. And when you feed something this energy, you make it grow.

Feeding positive thoughts your attention, this universal energy, the lifeforce that is the source of all that is, is like pouring water on a plant (except you can never overwater it). Or, like blowing up a balloon (except this balloon will never pop).

This is why visualisations work. This is why affirmations work. And this is why positive thinking works.

But as suggested above, the reverse of this is true too. Feeding negative thoughts your attention makes that negativity grow. And this is why fear works. This is why guilt and blame both work. And this is why worry and doubt and shame all work. Because they’re all forms of placing your powerful attention on something negative.

Here is a very simple experiment you can try to see this power in action. Start smiling at strangers. And this is a warm and friendly smile we’re talking about. We all know the kinds of smiles this is not referring to.

When you start smiling at strangers what you will notice is that most of them will smile back at you. Some of them, who are accustomed to smiling at strangers themselves, will do it right away, without blinking an eye. Others will be thrown for a moment, not accustomed to having a random stranger smile kindly at them. Not seeking anything in return. Just passing along a friendly blessing. And you watch – most of these people too will start to show a return smile coming over their face as well.

Yes, in today’s day and age some people will give you a strange stare for smiling at them. But even those people are having fun! Have you ever given someone a strange stare? Fun isn’t its original purpose. But somehow it ends up being fun anyway. And even those sourpusses whose sourness won’t be moved for anything or anyone, they still benefit from your smile as well. Because, whether they like it or not, you just injected a bit of positivity into their world. And that can’t help but do them well. So there is not a person you can smile at, really, who doesn’t somehow benefit from it.

And when you put out that kind of positivity into the world, it can’t help but come back at you.

Now this was just an example, just one experiment – smiling at strangers. But it shows how the smallest amounts of attention placed on positive things produces more positive things for you and everyone you touch.

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Enlightenment Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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“You may or may not get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need.”

January 30, 2012 By Johnathan

But what about those people in Africa? Many of them their basic needs for food, water etc are not met.

One has to take responsibility for everything one sees. The world is governed by greed. Humanity is trying to move out of greed (early stages at mo). If half the world wasn’t so greedy, then the other half would have enough. We need to restrict to what we actually ‘need’.

The African’s you could say are offering themselves as sacrifice so to give us a chance to develop compassion to the world. Good ‘Will’ to all men, but we don’t.

Now, it would be so easy for us to now go into self ‘guilt’ and donate money to various charities. What has happened in Africa is because of our ‘intention for living’.

There is no real need to be a millionaire. This is why often when you meet, for example internet entrepreneur gurus, say that they have never met a millionaire spiritualist. They simply don’t get it. The spiritualist’s focus and intention for living is just different and don’t want to cause harm to others.

However, as people are not enlightened people’s personalities want to be rich. In that case, setting up a business is fine without the intention of mass accumulation for the sake of it, but rather doing a Bill Gates and setting up foundations that puts the money accumulated to good use!

In this way you have abundance in all areas of your life.

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world, remains and is immortal.” ~ Albert Pine

Until we meet again.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

‘If You Meet The Buddha On The Road, Kill Him’

December 28, 2011 By Johnathan

I love this saying! In a nut shell: The Buddha you meet is YOUR reality, and you have to go beyond that. You can’t put a personality onto ‘ultimate reality’. Your mind can only deal with things on a certain level and so the mind tries to make Buddha a person. We’re trying to go beyond that (the Void), you can’t put a word to ‘ultimate reality’. All our perceptions of reality is just an illusion, so you go beyond what you think enlightenment is, kill it and keep practicing meditation.

 

National Adoption Week Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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‘Every Child Deserves A Family’

November 8, 2012 By Johnathan

As National Adoption Week (UK) begins to come to the close, Tunbridge Wells, Kent based The Index magazine ran an article about the book Two Worlds: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects, in it’s November 2012 issue, Kids Corner section, p79.

Click on the link below to have a read.

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Blessings,

Johnathan

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

Compassion Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth?

March 21, 2012 By Johnathan

Though it is true that on a physical level that we didn’t choose our parents but in personal development we often say to clients who have issues with a parent that they did choose their parents on a spiritual level. And we choose them, and all our challenges, as our parents gave us the opportunity and environment to learn from in order for us to ‘grow’.

Therefore, you can see some sense in this but what about the five or six million who died in camps during WWII? Did they have a pre birth agreement with Hitler and cohorts to suffer so?

The answer is yes, plus the WWI as well. They are both linked to each other. Let me explain.

Those that died in the concentration camps, you could say that they offered themselves or better still, they co-operated to demonstrate what brotherliness could be like, to bring out compassion of other people. Just like other episodes in history like the slave trade for example.

Hitler and the Germans were only compassionate to themselves i.e. blondes and blue eyes, but if you’re compassionate to yourself then you must be also be compassionate to your neighbour as we are ONE.

The Germans acted out this way in order ‘to carry the shadow of Europe’ and possibly the world. It all came out. I’m sorry to say but it reflected and showed itself how cruel and aggressive we all are underneath as we are all as ONE!

The 1st and the 2nd World Wars highlighted this misunderstanding of the concept that we are ONE. The focus was on half are good and half were bad.

Carl Jung understood and wrote about this back in 1933 before the war started and Germany’s part in both wars in getting this message across. Unfortunately, history about why the Germans started a second war again is only focused on the surface economic reasons.

The wars have shown us an opportunity, a new way of looking at things, in a brotherly interactive way.

How well do you think we have learned this? When we look at the various wars still going on today, some you can’t even split genetically, they are brother killing brother.

And what are our or your pains that we have chosen, taking us?

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

 

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“You may or may not get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need.”

January 30, 2012 By Johnathan 

But what about those people in Africa? Many of them their basic needs for food, water etc are not met.

One has to take responsibility for everything one sees. The world is governed by greed. Humanity is trying to move out of greed (early stages at mo). If half the world wasn’t so greedy, then the other half would have enough. We need to restrict to what we actually ‘need’.

The African’s you could say are offering themselves as sacrifice so to give us a chance to develop compassion to the world. Good ‘Will’ to all men, but we don’t.

Now, it would be so easy for us to now go into self ‘guilt’ and donate money to various charities. What has happened in Africa is because of our ‘intention for living’.

There is no real need to be a millionaire. This is why often when you meet, for example internet entrepreneur gurus, say that they have never met a millionaire spiritualist. They simply don’t get it. The spiritualist’s focus and intention for living is just different and don’t want to cause harm to others.

However, as people are not enlightened people’s personalities want to be rich. In that case, setting up a business is fine without the intention of mass accumulation for the sake of it, but rather doing a Bill Gates and setting up foundations that puts the money accumulated to good use!

In this way you have abundance in all areas of your life.

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world, remains and is immortal.” ~ Albert Pine

Until we meet again.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

signature

‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

Why we shouldn’t celebrate Osama Bin Ladin’s death?

May 4, 2011 By Johnathan

We are One….deep down in our shadow self, there may be a part of us all that is part Osama.

If you believe in Oneness one can’t pick and choose which we’re one with and which one we’re not. Perhaps he reflected mans lack of ‘Brotherhood’. Either case, there’s little point in popping Champaign. One needs to go deeper in much the same way in Germany’s role in the ‘shadow of Europe’ twice!

Why does one need to mourn or celebrate? The only thing people should ask themselves is: How does this affect me? If Osama is a reflection of me (in some way), is there a part of me that is a bit fanatical? And if so, how can I neutralise it?

We can’t have Peace in the world until you have Peace within us first. People that celebrate the death are not seeing the whole picture the ‘complete change’ into the Compassionate Age.

Those that celebrate are coming from the old reactionary state are stuck in the old ideas of retribution, an eye for an eye, but that just makes people blind.

Jung said that (and he wasn’t the only one) only when there is nothing else you can do then you let go and let in the Higher energies. Let go meaning letting go of our personality Self to have it our way only. I’ll leave that for your own interpretation as to what he meant by Higher energies.