Improve Self-esteem

April 1, 2013 By Johnathan

Life Coaching in Tunbridge Wells, Kent starts with loving and valuing yourself. Low self-esteem can sabotage our every effort at happiness while high self-esteem can be our greatest ally. Fortunately there are many ways to boost your self-esteem, including these:

Express yourself. By this I mean two things:

First – to express yourself creatively, through art, writing, song, crafts, cooking, drama, play. Creative expression is a basic human need that often goes neglected. Without it we may feel trapped, alienated, and unfulfilled, all of which can manifest as low self-esteem.
Second – to express those thoughts and feelings to other people that you’ve bottled up inside. As I’ve found repeatedly life coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent unexpressed emotions wear people down and make them feel unsupported by the very person who should care for us most: ourselves!

Know thyself. Be honest with yourself about who you are — including your failings and flaws. Much low self-esteem is rooted in delusion. We may dislike parts of ourselves because we’re dishonest about what we’re seeing or think we should be seeing. Then we judge ourselves based on those false impressions: “I’m a bad mother…child…employee…spouse.”

Likewise we often overlook those aspects of ourselves for which we should be most proud. Taking an honest and unflinching account of who you really are, warts and all, allows you to stand firm in the whole of your being, for better and worse. And that makes you immune to the judgment of others.

Pamper yourself. One of the most enjoyable lessons I get to impart Life Coaching in Tunbridge wells, Kent is that treating yourself with random acts of kindness has the same effect on you that it has on anyone else: it makes you feel good. And because it’s you who’s giving you that, it boosts your self-esteem. P.S. – Pampering others has the same self-esteem boosting benefits.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life Coach who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Comment

Angela O’Donovan says:

Inspirational. So true. Sometimes we need reminders of truths we know inside but forget in hurly burly of life.

Thanks.

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Johnathan says:

Hi Angela,
Worthlessness is such a common wound. It effects our whole self image. So glad the article is up lifting, we all could do with slowing down a bit and being present.

Blessings,
Johnathan

Manifesting Happiness

March 1, 2013 By Johnathan

“Victory always starts in the head. It’s a state of mind. It then spreads with such radiance and such affirmations that destiny can do nothing but obey.” ~ Douchan Gersi

close up photo of woman hugging a guy — Photo by Tim Mossholder on Pexels.com

To manifest it outside, you first must manifest it inside!

One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is basing your happiness on your life’s circumstances. Often we tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when some future event happens. “When I can make a little more money, then I’ll be happy”, “When my kid shapes up, then I’ll be happy”, “I’ll be really happy when this rocky period is over!”

The first (and smaller) of the two problems with this is that waiting around for something to happen before deciding to be happy deprives you of all the happiness you can be experiencing right now.

The much larger problem, however, with this attitude that happiness depends on something outside your own conscious intention is that it impedes the manifestation process of attaining the very things that you’re basing your future happiness upon.

How is this? Because in manifestation (as in electromagnetism) like attracts like. Joy attracts joy. Love attracts love. And happiness attracts happiness. Likewise, unhappiness attracts unhappiness, misery and sorrow attract misery and sorry, and so on.

By choosing to be happy now, regardless of your life circumstances you are claiming a tremendous power already always working within you – but now with you in charge. You can choose to be happy in the face of your life circumstances and in so doing will allow the universe to produce in your life the evidence supporting that state of happiness. The life circumstances validating your inner state of happiness.

In other words, first you feel happy then your life reorients itself around that happiness. It does not work the other way around.

If you are waiting for happiness to come in the form of some thing or event, then you will always be waiting for happiness to come. Because even if that thing or event does occur there will always be some thing else for you to instantly attach your happiness to.

Either we take ownership of our emotions or we are slaves to them, always seeking release, never finding it. There’s always something else to want: better looks, slimmer body, a loving relationship. And wants are good – they’re the seeds of creation. But if we’re the type of people who attach our happiness to the flourishing of the plant that seed has the potential to grow into, then every seed we plant will be another reason to put off our happiness for a later date. And another reason to feel anxious and worried and uncertain while we wait.

If you understand the principles of the Law of Attraction, then you know that the all-important third and final step of the process is to allow that which you desire to come into your life. And the way you do that is with feeling – emotion. The process requires you feel now what it will be like to have the fulfillment of your desires, as if it’s already happened.

For example, if you want a new car: you put the intention out there into the universe, you trust that your request has been received and granted and that the fulfillment of your desires is on its way, and then you ready yourself for its arrival by filling yourself to brimming with the feelings of fulfillment that energetically resonate with it. In other words, a new car is not going to come to someone who doesn’t feel they deserve it. And happiness does not come to someone who can’t take it.

When it comes to manifestation, happiness is a desire like any other. To manifest it outside yourself you first must manifest it inside.

Live life purposefully manifesting, through focusing!

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

Comments:

Ezine:

Thank you, I’ve recently been searching for information about this topic for a while and yours is the best I’ve discovered so far.
However, what in regards to the conclusion? Are you certain about the source

Johnathan:

Hello Ezine,

Here are some excellent books (source) on the subject from a scientific point of view:
• The Biology of Belief – Bruce Lipton
• Spontaneous Evolution – Bruce Lipton
• The Science of Oneness – Malcolm Hollick
• Waking up in Time – Peter Russell
• Super Brain – Deepak Chopra and Rudolph E. Phd Tanzi (just came out)
• It’s the Thought That Counts – David Hamilton
• How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body – David Hamilton
• Why Kindness is Good for You – David Hamilton

Heartmath Instiute – http://www.heartmath.org This is a wonderful scientific based website that has many books, software, programmes and courses that one can do and I highly recommend any of them, some are free. Very interesting experiments like measuring the distance, of a well balanced, individual’s heart vibration can go to.

Blessings,
Johnathan

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