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Talk is Cheap: Using NLP to Communicate More Effectively by Johnathan Brooks

September 8, 2013 By Johnathan

 

I was asked by Watt Works Consultancy to write a guest blog for them. You can read it here on their site http://www.watt-works.com/2013/09/talk-is-cheap-using-nlp-to-communicate-more-effectively-by-johnathan-brooks/ or below.

We are delighted this week to have a guest blog by Johnathan Brooks. Johnathan is a Cognitive-Behavioural Coach and Corporate Coach for AXA PPP Healthcare, who also uses NLP approaches extensively in his work. Johnathan’s Coaching practice is based in Tunbridge Wells in Kent.

“In business, communication is essential, and the more accountability and influence you have in the business, the more important it is that you communicate effectively – to employees, team members, co-workers, supervisors, contractors, clients, leads, and so on. Ordinarily we think of effective communication as a mere balance of speaking and listening. However, from the perspective of NLP, many different factors influence our ability to communicate effectively. Understanding these factors will help you communicate more effectively.

These factors fall into three categories:

1. People – who is doing the communicating
2. Messages – what these people are communicating
3. Medium – how they are communicating

People

As implied by our earlier oversimplification of communication as a matter of speaking and listening, in communication there are (at least) two parties – a speaker, or sender, and a receiver, or listener. Each of these two parties has a certain state of mind in that moment that will influence how they are both speaking and listening (sending and receiving). Then, in relation to each other, there is often a disparity of status, or power, between the two parties; this may fluctuate repeatedly throughout a conversation, or a lifetime. But in any given moment, one party is usually the dominant force and one is usually the submissive force.

Messages

This is of course what we think of most when we think of communicating: what we are saying. But there is far more going on, as you may now be starting to realise, than the mere content of your message. There is always what you are not saying; the larger message you are conveying beneath and beyond the words. This is called a ‘meta-message’ and could be something like, “I am better than you,” or “I feel guilty for something.” As you can see, these hidden ‘meta-messages’ color your intended message.

Medium

Finally there is the question of “how” you communicate, which could be looked at in a number of ways. There is of course, the actual medium of communication – speech, print, picture, body language. But there is also the context of the situation – the time and place, as it were. And there are the constrictions of culture, as different cultures imbue their people with different suppositions, expectations and rules regarding proper and improper communication.

Taking all of these factors into account when you communicate is bound to make you a better speaker, listener, team member, and leader.”

Skills in using NLP to communicate more effectively are taught on our Communication Skills and NLP for Business. These courses are available on an open-access and in-house basis. Contact Us today to find out how we can help you connect better with clients and colleagues.

’til we meet again,

Walk in Beauty;
Walk in Peace.

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Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Life and Corporate Coach for AXA PPP Healthcare, who has trained in a wide range of personal development treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’ which he passed with a ‘Commendation’. And is based in Tunbridge Wells, Kent.

He is a full member of the Association for Coaching (MAC) and is a Gold member of The Professional Guild of NLP.

 

Enlightenment Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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“You may or may not get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need.”

January 30, 2012 By Johnathan

But what about those people in Africa? Many of them their basic needs for food, water etc are not met.

One has to take responsibility for everything one sees. The world is governed by greed. Humanity is trying to move out of greed (early stages at mo). If half the world wasn’t so greedy, then the other half would have enough. We need to restrict to what we actually ‘need’.

The African’s you could say are offering themselves as sacrifice so to give us a chance to develop compassion to the world. Good ‘Will’ to all men, but we don’t.

Now, it would be so easy for us to now go into self ‘guilt’ and donate money to various charities. What has happened in Africa is because of our ‘intention for living’.

There is no real need to be a millionaire. This is why often when you meet, for example internet entrepreneur gurus, say that they have never met a millionaire spiritualist. They simply don’t get it. The spiritualist’s focus and intention for living is just different and don’t want to cause harm to others.

However, as people are not enlightened people’s personalities want to be rich. In that case, setting up a business is fine without the intention of mass accumulation for the sake of it, but rather doing a Bill Gates and setting up foundations that puts the money accumulated to good use!

In this way you have abundance in all areas of your life.

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world, remains and is immortal.” ~ Albert Pine

Until we meet again.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

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‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

‘If You Meet The Buddha On The Road, Kill Him’

December 28, 2011 By Johnathan

I love this saying! In a nut shell: The Buddha you meet is YOUR reality, and you have to go beyond that. You can’t put a personality onto ‘ultimate reality’. Your mind can only deal with things on a certain level and so the mind tries to make Buddha a person. We’re trying to go beyond that (the Void), you can’t put a word to ‘ultimate reality’. All our perceptions of reality is just an illusion, so you go beyond what you think enlightenment is, kill it and keep practicing meditation.

 

National Adoption Week Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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‘Every Child Deserves A Family’

November 8, 2012 By Johnathan

As National Adoption Week (UK) begins to come to the close, Tunbridge Wells, Kent based The Index magazine ran an article about the book Two Worlds: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects, in it’s November 2012 issue, Kids Corner section, p79.

Click on the link below to have a read.

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Blessings,

Johnathan

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

Compassion Archives – Spirit Bear Coaching

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Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth?

March 21, 2012 By Johnathan

Though it is true that on a physical level that we didn’t choose our parents but in personal development we often say to clients who have issues with a parent that they did choose their parents on a spiritual level. And we choose them, and all our challenges, as our parents gave us the opportunity and environment to learn from in order for us to ‘grow’.

Therefore, you can see some sense in this but what about the five or six million who died in camps during WWII? Did they have a pre birth agreement with Hitler and cohorts to suffer so?

The answer is yes, plus the WWI as well. They are both linked to each other. Let me explain.

Those that died in the concentration camps, you could say that they offered themselves or better still, they co-operated to demonstrate what brotherliness could be like, to bring out compassion of other people. Just like other episodes in history like the slave trade for example.

Hitler and the Germans were only compassionate to themselves i.e. blondes and blue eyes, but if you’re compassionate to yourself then you must be also be compassionate to your neighbour as we are ONE.

The Germans acted out this way in order ‘to carry the shadow of Europe’ and possibly the world. It all came out. I’m sorry to say but it reflected and showed itself how cruel and aggressive we all are underneath as we are all as ONE!

The 1st and the 2nd World Wars highlighted this misunderstanding of the concept that we are ONE. The focus was on half are good and half were bad.

Carl Jung understood and wrote about this back in 1933 before the war started and Germany’s part in both wars in getting this message across. Unfortunately, history about why the Germans started a second war again is only focused on the surface economic reasons.

The wars have shown us an opportunity, a new way of looking at things, in a brotherly interactive way.

How well do you think we have learned this? When we look at the various wars still going on today, some you can’t even split genetically, they are brother killing brother.

And what are our or your pains that we have chosen, taking us?

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

 

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“You may or may not get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need.”

January 30, 2012 By Johnathan 

But what about those people in Africa? Many of them their basic needs for food, water etc are not met.

One has to take responsibility for everything one sees. The world is governed by greed. Humanity is trying to move out of greed (early stages at mo). If half the world wasn’t so greedy, then the other half would have enough. We need to restrict to what we actually ‘need’.

The African’s you could say are offering themselves as sacrifice so to give us a chance to develop compassion to the world. Good ‘Will’ to all men, but we don’t.

Now, it would be so easy for us to now go into self ‘guilt’ and donate money to various charities. What has happened in Africa is because of our ‘intention for living’.

There is no real need to be a millionaire. This is why often when you meet, for example internet entrepreneur gurus, say that they have never met a millionaire spiritualist. They simply don’t get it. The spiritualist’s focus and intention for living is just different and don’t want to cause harm to others.

However, as people are not enlightened people’s personalities want to be rich. In that case, setting up a business is fine without the intention of mass accumulation for the sake of it, but rather doing a Bill Gates and setting up foundations that puts the money accumulated to good use!

In this way you have abundance in all areas of your life.

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world, remains and is immortal.” ~ Albert Pine

Until we meet again.

Walk in Peace;

Walk in Beauty.

signature

‘Causing the Miraculous by Spreading Beauty, Truth & Harmony‘

Johnathan Brooks, MAC, PG Dip is a Cognitive Behavioural Coach who has trained in a wide range of treatment methods including the “Power Therapies” (CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (postgrad), EFT Emotional Freedom Technique, Master NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has a Post Graduate Diploma in ‘Coaching and NLP’.

 

Why we shouldn’t celebrate Osama Bin Ladin’s death?

May 4, 2011 By Johnathan

We are One….deep down in our shadow self, there may be a part of us all that is part Osama.

If you believe in Oneness one can’t pick and choose which we’re one with and which one we’re not. Perhaps he reflected mans lack of ‘Brotherhood’. Either case, there’s little point in popping Champaign. One needs to go deeper in much the same way in Germany’s role in the ‘shadow of Europe’ twice!

Why does one need to mourn or celebrate? The only thing people should ask themselves is: How does this affect me? If Osama is a reflection of me (in some way), is there a part of me that is a bit fanatical? And if so, how can I neutralise it?

We can’t have Peace in the world until you have Peace within us first. People that celebrate the death are not seeing the whole picture the ‘complete change’ into the Compassionate Age.

Those that celebrate are coming from the old reactionary state are stuck in the old ideas of retribution, an eye for an eye, but that just makes people blind.

Jung said that (and he wasn’t the only one) only when there is nothing else you can do then you let go and let in the Higher energies. Let go meaning letting go of our personality Self to have it our way only. I’ll leave that for your own interpretation as to what he meant by Higher energies.